The less you Scratch, the less it itches

Case Study 01

When Rifat was 14, his dad offered him a Citycell (CDMA) phone. He wasn’t interested, because no friend of his had a phone back then (It was in 2002). What would he do with something that he cannot use properly? Just two years later, he screamed like mad for a phone. But, his father was unable to give him one. By the way, he managed to buy a phone in 2006. He started to work at a phone repairing shop. Sometimes, customers never return to get their phone due to many reasons. They didn’t even come to get their SIM card too! He got his first SIM card just like that! There were many sleepless nights he wondered when the customer would return, then he would have to return it. He moved somewhere else later on in order to get a job, still, whenever an unknown call came, he jumped up! Those days always makes him laugh! Nine years have passed, no one came. Finally, maybe in 2015, he registered it biometrically. Now it's been 16 years, still nobody claimed for his/her SIM card. The scratch is still there. He can't help it, though he knows that he is the legal owner of that SIM card. He doesn't know how to stop the scratch.

The moment you misbehave with someone and it bothers you whole day, you can't concentrate on anything. The thought leave you in such a situation that you feel the immediate urge to go to that person and reconcile with him/her. That's what I mean by Scratch.

Case Study 02

Long ago, Ayon was in an affair, his girlfriend didn't have a phone. She used to call him from other people's phone like her parents or elder siblings or even the guests comes to visit their house. The affair was so deep that they were ready to sacrifice anything in order to be with each other. Suddenly she stopped calling him. It went for one whole year. Not a beep. He was very worried at first. Then he learned that she is fine and someone told him that she got married which was not true. But he didn't bother cross check it. At that time, there was a huge pressure on him to marry as soon as possible. That's a long story. As he didn’t have any other way to contact with her, he had to marry (You may find it weird, but it happens in Bangladesh all the time). Three months later, SHE called! He was in the toilet. He told her that he got married. Obviously, she didn’t believe him at first, but she did within a day. She didn’t complain. he still doesn't know if he did it right or wrong. She didn’t try to contact him since then. It was heard that she is still single. AND it scratches him a lot.

Conclusion:

Scratching is obvious whether you like it or not. The boss you are dealing with everyday, your spouse, family, friends, almost everyone will leave you in a state of scratching.

What I found is that it goes away no matter how deep the itch is. We shouldn't scratch it. Sometimes, the situation is not in our favor. I'm dealing with such a situation everyday. Still I'm hopeful that I'd overcome this situation and crawl through the other side of that sewer pipe clean.