Like you said, "You can become stupid—literally." This is sooo true, and most of us that read this post can actually relate to this.

However, sometimes, even self love is not enough to pull someone out of this mysery. One minute you're trying to realize things, but the next, when you see the person, you throw everything away just so that you can continue living with the person that's hurting you. It takes the vindication of God to deliver people from the these type of issue.