I am a person who does not have many friends or relatives and this is neither a matter of pride nor shame . I think it is a reality created from my life experience. Time has taught me that not everyone is there for me when I need them the most the ones I considered my own were the furthest away. It hurts not to get help in times of trouble but it hurts even more that the realization that the people I did everything for could not do anything for me. Yes, you can say that at that time they may not have been able to help. But I always have to help financially, now it is out of the question. A little communication is much more than financial help.
This is why I no longer force relationships be it friends or relatives. But I do not suddenly block anyone or make drama or fight. I gradually remove people from my life over time. No one becomes a stranger in a day this distance is created slowly, silently.
At the end of the year I often find that the people around me are few but the ones who are there are real. Those few friends and relatives who sit by my side in good and bad times. Those with whom I can talk for hours, then I feel that these people are the real achievements of my life. When the new year comes, I look at my life anew again and think about who will be a part of my journey and who will just be a part of my memory. I don't cut ties with anyone, I just gradually set my boundaries, this process is necessary for me.
In this generation, we often hold on to the wrong people just out of fear of being alone, but I have learned that solitary peace is much safer than a crowd of the wrong people. So in the new year, I do the same thing, make room for real people around me and quietly say goodbye to unnecessary relationships. For me, the new year is not just about changing the calendar, the new year is about choosing your life anew, choosing your people anew.