Everyone wants to lead a fulfilled life filled with opportunities and sometimes we often hold the assumption that where we aren't is always better than where we are not. Everyone is guilty of this because we're fond of always underestimating our positions in life because we feel that doing otherwise will only create complacency in us, aside from this, we're always living in the illusion that the grass is always green on the other side, especially if we've been struggling too hard to get there and it's been difficult.
The truth is that we always feel that leaving the position we are in is the definition of constantly moving forward, but this isn't true, life has a way of creating meaning, impacting us with different meanings and sometimes we choose to understand it differently, this is how the impression of progress is often made.
The Aspect Of Insatiabilty
It's a good and bad thing that we're generally insatiable. Insatiability brings curiosity and the needed strength to continue hustling. This is to say that we're easily convinced by the impressions of others.
For example, social media is a glorified, aggrandized and perfect state of human existence
Why?
This is because it's more like the dream we mostly crave, so rather than living in the illusion of that life, why not create it? Everyone has an illusion, a life of comfort which they yearn and sometimes we feel that living a concocted version of it online might signal progress and not reek of all our failures in reality.
Money Avenues
For example, flaunting money online might get you a big social media following, and create avenues that you'd naturally never get in real life because people are taking the "fake it till you make it" thing to a whole new level every day. This is where startup companies keep up a wealthy appearance to convince big investors to invest with them. This is where people create a different impression of who they are to convince people that they're what they're not.
I mean, being impressionistic can create opportunity, and sometimes it can bring disappointments. For example, a lot of people are self-acclaimed CEOs online with realistic businesses that they're managing.
Following The Portfolio Rather Than Reality
Here's an example......
When you go to LinkedIn, you'll see people with massive portfolios, and it sort of intimidates people who are looking to sell skill and make money. These people with massive portfolios are only looking to create more opportunities for themselves.
When it comes to seeking jobs online or getting the right person for a job, portfolios are what we mostly check to see if they meet the requirements, but the truth is, portfolios don't do the job, sometimes people make themselves overqualified for a job, by tweaking their portfolios to beat the competition and create an instant impression.
We're quick to forget that reality is a different ball game, it seems like a lot more people are succeeding online and sometimes we're wondering why we're failing in real life.
It often feels scary when our lives look incomplete and some people seem to be living the perfect life, earning six figures, getting good health care, waking up to fat bank accounts, and leading good dreams. The downside to this is that since this can overly motivate us, it might make us sacrifice everything we've worked hard for, to acquire that life that's being flaunted out there.
The internet makes real life heavily over-packaged and this has numerous advantages, but a lot of people do this to create awareness, beat the competition, create validation and leave people with a seeking or curious mind.
The Green Or Malnourished Grass?
The grass might be greener on the other side, this is because there's the possibility that it is, but there's no certainty that it is. I feel that since there's an iota of uncertainty to the grass on the other side, would it then be worth giving up all the grass we have?
Call me old-fashioned but I still think, it gets to a point in time where we should be wary of impressions created by others. Many narratives are trying to unseat us from the positions we've worked hard to reach in life, this is because of sophistication, the aim to seek betterment, and the rush to be up and doing in every aspect of life.
There's nothing hard in being moved by the narratives that are being sold out there, there's no narrative without disadvantages, sometimes we're mostly moved by the illusion of attaining perfection, especially in the aspect of money, this is why it's easy to scam people. At the end of the day, speed and shortcuts bring side effects as might never be prepared for, and hampers our progress to some extent.
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LOL. You are very right.
Unfortunately, there's a time that I've encountered a lot of employees looking for competency training because they need more certificates for their job. It doesn't matter if they learn or not as long as they have a certificate to present to their boss. 😁
Also, there was this time when I was looking for a training to be competent in automotive servicing. I visited one school and asked their front desk officer if finishing their two month automotive servicing course would make me competent in the field. I was surprised to get the answer that I will be getting a national certificate which would certify that I can do the job. I almost answer back that I don't need the certificate, all I need is to be able to be competent in automotive servicing. It's not the certificate that will do the servicing right? LOL.
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I think people are almost obsessed with portfolios and degrees, I thought it only happens in Nigeria, imagine having to present a certificate for a job you already know how to do. I know that documentation and excessive red tapism is one of the reasons why we have unqualified people doing some job all because a report or certificate proves they can do it. I guess it's the world we live in. It's absolutely crazy the requirements we have to present to prove our capacity.
It happens in my country too. That's why I don't believe much on people flaunting their certificates and or degrees. I have been a trainer/teacher for around 3 or 4 years and most of our clients are just after the certificates.
It's how easily we give up our loaf of bread for someone else's seemingly well-packaged half bread(sorry I am using bread in this context) that irks me.
It's so easy to look at other person's and feel like we're at the same spot we were last year, meanwhile, we progress daily.
I believe in working at one's pace and making it quietly. It's all about contentment and gratitude tho.
We're in the internet and we're easily carried away by the things we see and perceive. We're mostly likely to tap into the news we hear at all time and let it influence the things we know.
By all means, please. I think you're trying to convey a very good point and that has actually sold the narrative.
Thanks for coming through.
The illusion is just as they say an illusion. From what I have seen, it's very easy to play things up and look bigger than you seem. However, the truly rich people don't even bother because they don't really care. There are a lot of people who aren't as well off as they show and it's too bad that too many people fall for it. I just prefer to be financially free and I don't care about the extra attention. So long as my life is fine and I can do what I wish to do, it's fine in my books.
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Well the truth with wealth is that, some people wants that extra validation that comes with it, they derive the pleasure or that satisfaction of people rating them highly, so it's often dependent on people and what their mindset is about money
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People that fake it is common in Africa and it is because nobody want to have anything to do with you if you don't have anything, even as a businessman building up your business in Africa you must give them what is too good to be true sometimes. This is a big problem in our society
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Hahaha this is true bro, people mostly want to associate with you if you're rich, hence the reason why people often fake rich to get them attention.
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If one should be intimidated especially when you go on LinkedIn, because so many portfolios of people we keep seeing aren't what we think about them. Some just fill them in just to grab their opportunity and see if they'd do better but the reality will be dawned on them that they are only deceiving themselves and because we see such, we feel where we are, we aren't doing better and we want more. We believe things are better on the other side but we need to start from where we are, so we aren't caught unaware when it's too late to realize it. Sometimes, the other side might not be greener as we thought it to be but because of the illusion that the grass is greener on the other side, we leave where we are, including the progress we are already making and wanting to start afresh elsewhere. Definitely this decision might hamper our progress in the end.
I recently registered on LinkedIn and my goodness, I didn't think there was anything I'd be able to do but I later realized it was all fakery.
Well I use to tell people the grass is never greener on the other side. So many times in life I've come to learn this even from personal experiences. However some people can never truly learn unless they fail and make terrible mistakes, that shouldn't be the only way we can learn.
Na fake o 😂 and that one shouldn't deceive us and if we too long there, we might be so intimidated that we start looking through our lives if we are actually making progress but we are! People wouldn't want to believe until they go their own ways and make terrible mistakes. There are other nice ways to learn though.
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I watched a documentary about very rich people and one lady stood out. She'd amassed a huge fortune of over 350 million dollars.
Yet she wasn't happy.
Her mind was constantly troubled by one recurring thought: That she'd somehow lose it all. There was no logic to her thinking. It wasn't as if she was betting it all on worm farms or some other crazy investment, she simply had no confidence in her assets.
No matter where we are in life, I hope we can all find the peace and contentment that eludes a woman such as this. As in her case, money can't even buy her peace of mind.
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Hahaha perfectly said. In reality, I still think even if she begins to spend all the money it'll take her time to finish all the money. I guess her fear must've been from a different psychological issue but you're right, it still spells the fact that the height of wealth cannot bring happiness. Well I also believe this is why we must attain happiness or try to find happiness in everything we do, as money isn't everything.