Okay, I will just focus on the example you gave. Children are very sensitive to the things around them and when they refuse to accept corrections, look inwardly. Do the parents accept corrections when they are corrected? Or do they even accept they are wrong or they are the type that believes they are always right.
Fave, I have trained children not child. I made an exception in my write up because of course I’ve not seen it all but I tell you this, a child inbuilt stubbornness can be traced to someone in that family and as parents, when we realize this, there are so many ways they can help that child but they never saw it as necessary and now things has gone out of hand.
Beating a child always and you still see the child doing the same thing only means that beating is not the remedy that child needs. That child needs a friend, someone they can trust and as a parent that is your duty.
Parenting is no child’s play, you keep learning on the job but if as a parent you are not learning, you will think some problems don’t have solutions but trust me, as long as their is a problem there is a solution, you either have to find it or create it.
Yes, prayer is vital and that is also parents responsibility. They have a role to their children, spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally. All of these must be intact because if you miss one, you might miss another and another and another.
And as for the part of parents having a soft spot for their children, well, it is mostly like that first some but that is still on you as a parent. If you end up using that to the detriment of the child then you are to blame because I know of some parents that despite their ordeal, they still made sure the child is given proper training.
Hope, I’m glad you agree that you have not seen it all. It is nice that you have trained so many kids. Although you are not a parent yet, you are experienced in that field. Nice, Hope. Really nice.
I tell you that some parents put in everything to change their kids. I understand that beating them is not the only method, but they try other methods too. They spend time trying to correct their kids, but it is another level when they turn teenagers.
These are valid points, Hope. You are really experienced in this field. But my point is that there are exceptions. Most times, it is the parent’s fault. However, in some cases, it is the child’s fault.
Hope, I grew up with soft parents. Although some of the teachings came with belts, brooms, and slippers, my parents were generally soft. Still, I didn’t turn out to be wayward.
The fact that I’m not a parent is the part I’d like to hold on to and rest on this. I believe we all know what is right to do and if we fail to do it, we will be the one to bear the consequences. Whether it is our parents that didn’t do their jobs or not but God is definitely going to hold them accountable for their children in the end, whether we agree or not.
Nobody starts something in a day not even children, it is as a result of constant thoughts or something they see almost every time. When we don’t notice that early we tend to correct them late and that might no longer have any effect because they are already forming their own beliefs.
Even when they gave it their best?
God is not human, his thoughts are different from ours. Well, he sees everything so he is the only one that can really say whether or not a parent did their best or not.