I took the best I could of him and only keep the best memories!
Very wise approach!
Something I didn't mention in the original post, but which is extremely relevant, especially in light of your situation, after their divorce, my mom and dad both went out of their way to NEVER talk bad about each other, at least not in front of my sister and me.
When a divorce occurs, one of the worst things a mother or father can do to their children is to try to diminish the importance of the other one.
Children need to have confidence and trust in their mom. And, equally, they need to have confidence and trust in their dad. Stealing either of those "diamonds of hope" from them is a grievous wrong.
Exactly man, this deal about not talk bad about each other its very important to make kids grow with healthy family even in divorce situation. Unfortunately are less parent that made this a serious deal. So much humans not prepared to live a real parenthood. But, focus on us and what we can do! And we do the best for us little creatures :)