Lately, there have been an alarming rate of divorce and breakups. Even friendships hardly lasts. Associates waste no time at dragging each other to the mud, should there be a little misunderstanding.
We are indeed living in the fast lane. spending time to build a thing is a habit that is fast disappearing.
But the truth still remains, nothing worthwhile is done in a jiffy.
You can take that to the bank, although that is not my main case here.
In as much as I don't ascribe to divorce and breakups of any kind, I however understands that situations do make some things inevitable.
In the case of incessant abuse of a partner by a partner, any attempt to put up with such relationship is nothing short of a suicide mission.
In such cases it's safe for the victim to save himself or herself from such toxicity, by staying away from the abusive partner.
In some quarters marriage is seen as a social experiment, where two grown individuals come together and bind themselves under a vow in hope of a better future.
Just as every experiment, it might not yield the expected outcome. As a result the couple may decide to separate.
In such cases I would have love to preach love. I would've love to state the fact that love endures, it is patience and it easily forgives.
But I know that no vested with the authority of telling grown people how to live their lives, especially if their actions isn't punishable by the customary law of their respective society.
So two grown adults can decide that a relationship, a friendship or an association isn't working and therefore opt for a separation.
My worry is; is there no way this separation can be done without bitterness or at least with minimal amount of it?
Is there no way it can be done with understanding?
A disturbing trend warranted that question.
We have situations where people who once saw their partners as the best thing after slice bread decide to go their seperate way.
No doubt, I would've love to advise against that, but I think, if it must come to that, then it shouldn't be more scandalous than it already is. Or Should it?
Maybe my reasonings are archaic, hence I can't understand latest stuffs.
what do I see now?
Screenshots exposing the weaknesses of someone they once claimed to love.
We also see voice notes flying around social media, released by one of the partner in an attempt to shame someone they once professed love to.
I'm beginning to think that some people get into relationship with no notion to love.
How do you love someone and keep the record of the person's wrong against when you guys will be separated?
That action makes it look like you were planning for that all along.
Social media have offered us a stage with billions spectators, hence everyone wants to put up show.
Funnily enough, the Public are enjoying the show so they'll keep egging the partners on to continue getting messy in a bid to outdo one another.
So it is more like "who's gonna get messier?"
We are fast losing our sanity to the cheers of social media mob.
I believe that the noble at heart should be concerned about how this abnormality can ebbed so that it doesn't become more normal than it is.
Breakups, false relationships and scandals are making headlines here and there. Nowadays, it's hard to differentiate truth from false on social media.
There's no harm in putting a hold or full stop to an existing affair if the need arises. Just do it peacefully so that each partner can start another life.
That's the point bro, it can be done peacefully.
Glad to see you around.
Yes, we still appreciate it. You know, sometimes people who show their love in public areas aren't all sincere. They just want attention for financial gain.
Social media and influencers play an active role in wrapping content and seem like making real stories.
Glad to see that people still value relationships. It's been disturbing this days.
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Hmm.. people come to me for two reason.. one when they want to marry someone against the wishes of parents and relatives or when they are in deep crap.
The problem is people are hardly prepared for this major life change.
They mess around make a farce of it it and then look for sympathy.
I had been doing marital counseling for years and simply put, just tired of it.
There is no such thing as love - its almost always about what I want.. like the other person has no wants.
Reached this post through @dreemport
We just more people willing to to take than to give. That is actually the opposite of love. That's selfishness. If we consider each other more, then we'll be getting it right.
Yeah that's right, plus people today have too many options they consider it a waste of time trying to make things work. Easier to switch partners.
Relationships will always go through peaks and troughs, after all, we are all human and we cannot always be in our best form. But when relationships break down significantly over time, so that they are irretrievable, then it is time to move on, for both party's sake. However, I do agree, that this should be done with sensitivity and care, and not malicious retribution, especially if there are also children involved. Under no circumstances should the dirty laundry be aired on social media platforms! Completely agree with you that we have got to become a society that values relationships again. This doesn't mean that we have to hang onto them for dear life when they are clearly not worth rescuing, but it does mean that we can end them as we entered into them, with compassion, kindness, and love. I came to your post via @dreemport
Brilliant submission. Everything should be done with some level of sensitivity.