Arguments have so many definitions when I looked it up on Google but I'm not going to put this write up on the focus of arguments being a fact or statement used to support a proposition like I saw as one if it's definition.
I want to write about argument as a verbal dispute - A Quarrel
Arguments are mostly done to get to a conclusion from points or proposition given. But we would agree that there are arguments that end up in a fight and nothing good comes out of it - Although some would take a sense from it even if it ended badly.
Why do some arguments end up badly?
Proving right! Each party involved in an argument wants to prove right. Most people involved in such arguments don't have an open mind, they just want to make their point stand solid and make sure to win the argument without them listening to the others point - By listening, I mean "Taking a little thought on what the person said".
I was on a train journey some time ago listening to my music when I heard a loud noise from different voices and I listened to hear that some men were arguing so readily about the difference between using a train and a vehicle for traveling.
Firstly, I felt that wasn't a topic to be argued about by them since they were in the train and they must have all experienced using a vehicle before. That aside, I tried to listen to their points even though two were talking at the same time and I noticed one of the men was raising his voice higher than the others. Maybe he is the one I talked about - Making sure to be heard and to win.
I kept watching them and listening to what started to seem like a waste of time and energy on their own part. Then I heard one of the man said something "There is nothing you will say that I will believe it's the truth than what I just told you guys" - He had a closed mind about the whole thing from beginning.
I began to feel if there was something else they were arguing about that I wasn't aware of... The argument seemed too serious for such a mild topic. They argued for almost two hours and it ended before two hours because the leading man got to his destination. He highlighted from the train but not after taking the contact of one of them he argued with... Argument to be continued I guess.
I believe arguments when done properly should involve the parties giving their points without obstructing or downgrading another. Or maybe that wouldn't be an argument anymore? I don't know but there must be a way to end an argument quietly and everyone goes off feeling okay with it and learnt something from it.
What do you have to say about arguments that end badly? I would like to read your opinions.
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-Hi Sis @merit.ahama ..nice topic. I think it's on a case-to-case basis! Some arguments happen from two opposing sides, in which the reason of the arguments was deep that might end up in quarrel or will never end because they both have a worthless ego, nobody wanted to listen or to give way to the other. When both or one of them is open-minded, everything ends well.
But there is also some healthy arguments that you will feel too much happiness and fun especially when you see the one to whom you arguing with was a bit annoyed but still not losing his patience arguing with you..and ending up apologetic even if the bad side of the arguments came from you hehehe talking from my experience when I had a funny argument with someone for more than 3hours hehe💚❤🌷
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#dreemer
Yea i understand there are are some healthy arguments in which you will both be in the mood to argue with each other. You will be both very ready to argue but on the long run, you will surely end up provoking EaCh other. Though i hate argument. No matter how interesting the argument may be, i always walk away from anything argument.
😂 You had an argument with someone for 3 hours? That's a very long one, I don't know if I'd be able to do that. I hate arguments a lot.
Well, you're right about having healthy arguments. It's just kinda rare.
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-Hahaha! Aha...but it was a cute argument on chat hehehehe..maybe in real he was burning from being so annoyed hehe..he was so kind and don't know how to get angry or annoyed maybe..or just hiding it!! hehe, even annoyed still managed to understand me so we end up laughing and not quarreling haha!!!🤣😅
Now this made me laugh😂😂. I won't want to give my number for a continuation after two hours argument.
I had it in mind to writ about this because this morning, just this peaceful morning as everyone was going about their sanitation and i heard voices. My brothers were arguing with their friends about an online thing. I woke up to the argument, made breakfast, ate, had my bath took a walk, came back and they were still arguing .. like wtf?! Keep quiet already guys!.
It got to a point where I heard something like "so wetin we de argue about now" futile arguments.
At least it didn't end badly.
Arguments ending badly to me is just having two adults or more not wanting to compromise to oneanother
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Argument is not a good thing to involve oneself in. Argument often leads to conflicts and enmity atimes. The way you understands a topic atimes, the person you are arguing with may have contrary opinion about it and you know, you will be proving you are right and the other person will be proving right at the same time. So according to me, i thought argument is not a good thing. Thank you for this
I tend to think of arguments as often being where the people are not listening to each other and are bull headed on their opinion
If they listen to each other it then is more of a discussion and can be a leaning experience
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Wow... They actually exchanged info to continue such an unimportant dispute? I think you are right and there was something more happening here.
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Seriously, I don't like people who stands on their point just to win an argument. I have a guy in my hostel too, anytime he talks and keep arguing even when he knows he is wrong, he won't admit the fact and there are people to win over him with the fact.
I don't like such because it becomes an heated argument at the end.
@dreemport
I think I share in your believe that arguments when done properly should involve the parties making their points without obstructing or downgrading another. They should give what we call a listening ear.
No doubts, arguments must arise one way or the other cause we all often have different opinions about issues. However, lack of giving ourselves a listening ear is actually what causes these arguments to last longer than necessary.
If each party can just allow the other to proof his point without being bias or having a closed mind concerning the topic being argued, I believe we won't be having any cause for alarm...
Thanks for enlightening us on this. I was directed to this post by @dreemport.