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RE: POB TALK 04/08/2021 - #67

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The best thing to consider while choosing a friend is
YOUR SIMILARITIES
The most important criteria i consider in having a friendship is the similarities between us.
U can't compare two people that share the same experience friendship to two people with a lot of differences friendship.
Foe example am a nigerian.
If i go to a another country,and in that country there is a nigerian also there,there will be a high probability that the nigerian in that country and I will be more closer than I and another person with different nationality because I and the nigerian are similar in nationality.
This does not apply to nationality alone but to other aspect like
I and the person i want to choose as friend are having the vision,the same ambition,the same choice,the way of thought,the same mindset,the same best food etc.....
So if I want to choose a friend,i will choose someone who have the same similarities as me.
The more the similarities,the more thighter our friendship.


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Similarity, for sure.

But what I consider even more important is COMPATIBILITY. Being similar is compatible but being compatible doesn't always mean being similar.

Compatability is about to understand each other, what they want, understanding their life choices and priorities and respecting them; standing with them in tough times, giving them a shoulder in their tough times.

Two different people can surely survive together happily if they are compatible. Giving my example, me and my best friend are complete opposites of each other. I love to cook, she hates it. She loves to drink and party, that's not my choice. She like adventure, i like shopping. But we are best friends.

Similarly with my sister, we are complete opposites. If she says North, I have to say South without a fail. But she is my best companion. I discuss with her everything, share all my joys and sorrows, like to shop with her and can chit chat with her for hours. That's what I call compatibility.

Respecting others is what is required for a friendship to grow.


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It is only wise to consider people have similar characteristics to become friends than opposite has the connection between the two of you will make the friendship last long. Opposite characteristics will only soell doom for the friendship has there will be lack of understanding which isn't good in the friendship. We need someone who can have our back and assist in time of our need. Good friends are loyal and accept you for who you are during the good and bad times. Love the illustration of using the case of nationality in another country, that gives a good picture of why similarities should placed has utmost priority.

However sometimes two different kind of people can work together and become good friends it depends on the Quality of loyalty and trustworthiness is found. People with similar qualities tend to break one heart or stab one at the back. At the end it is all watching carefully and been very selective and watchful of who we chose has our friends. Sometimes opposite usually attract has it makes it more fun. As long as there are loyalty, trust and respect between both friends, the relationship will stand the test of time.


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