I love that style and try to employ it always... give the encouragement first - then... gently with the critique.

but i've found that so many people really love both. most people WANT to grow and recognize that they only will do so - when they can see other options to choose.

poking hearts .... it's all a matter of the heartpoker - hahahaha

if the heartpoker is aggressive and authoritarian... good luck with anything in life with that attitude hahahaha

if the heartpoker pokes with love as the fuel... ahhh deep sigh :) the way its supposed to be