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RE: Book review: Edith Eger. The choice. The memoirs of a Holocaust survivor

love is the strongest forces from our Universe and if you don't know how to love yourself you can't love anybody else.

I think most of us are struggling with our life and the relationships we keep because we've not been able to love ourselves. How can you truely open up to another person, how can you show love to another person when you feel irritated with yourself. The hatred is so deep that you cannot even stand the thought of living. You then tend to hate everyone that comes around you or you just can't show them how much you love them.

I love your review @creativemary , made me want to just grab the book from your hand and start reading. I love books like this, books that talk about what we go through as human beings. Being a human isn't easy. Imagine having to marry someone so you can escape hunger, no matter how people would hate her for doing that, it was the only way for her to survive. A lot of us are making so many decisions so we able think about the consequences of our actions.

I'm glad she actually got to discover herself and truely find the love of her life. I truely wish that we'll all have something of a happy ending after all the trials we've faced in our lives.

Enjoyed reading your review, thank you for sharing

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Hey! Learning how to love ourselves should be taught in school and to our parents. Nobody taught me this so I learned through observation. It took me years and a lot of painful experiences to teach me that I didn't love myself as I thought I did. I can trace this back to childhood, where a lot of criticism was around. We didn't talk about emotions or feelings, they were swept under the rug. We carry this with us in adulthood and romantic relationships bring to the surface all of the nasty demons. It did the same for Edith, she was also very criticized during her childhood and she became a perfectionist trying to please others.

I think that the process of loving yourself is different for each individual. I look at myself and see how hard it was for me to finally have the difficult conversations with all of the members of my family and to speak my mind. How many adults really trace the source of their trauma and make the courage to do the right thing? It is sad that maybe for some people they will have to live in vain, in the idea that they will be too old when they will realize why they haven't had real love in their life. But maybe that is their journey. We make our own fate. Edith was strong enough to hold a mirror and look at herself. It was an act of bravery to see that it wasn't her husband the problem, but her own trauma. I strongly believe that if you have a partner who can be with you in the highs and lows and still be close to your heart, then that love can't be torn apart. This is why she remarried Bela. Real life stories are better than Hollywood drama.

I loved the happy ending. It was inspiring to see such honesty written for all strangers to see.

Thank you a lot for stopping by🤗