How to prevent your desire from turning into stress

Desire is a major cause of stress because it involves a higher standard of "desire" than the more relaxed, calm-minded person. If you desire something badly enough, you will probably do whatever you can to get it. In this article I will show how trying to control your desire can actually make the problem worse.

It seems that no matter what we try to do in life, there are problems that seem to plague us. My desire for a promotion at work kept me up nights. My husband made me stay home to care for his sick mother. My son left home to go to college and while I was raising my young daughter, my other daughter wanted to quit school. These were just a few examples of the major cause of desire that seems to overwhelm us.

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Trying to control your desire is an exercise in futility. If you desire something badly enough, there is simply no way that you can possibly let go of it. You will resist any attempt to let go because your "desire" has become your reality. If there is nothing that you can do to change your reality, then your desire will be of no use to you. It may feel as if there is no hope.

What if there was a way to change your desire? What if you could learn how to control your desire? Can you imagine the relief of not being able to control your desire? This would allow you to go where you desire to go without the fear that your desire would get in the way. Imagine that instead of wanting to go to the beach every summer, you are thrilled that you can vacation in Florida whenever you want.

To change your desire, you first must recognize that it is there. It may feel like it is out of control, but it isn't. You have always had it. It is what fuels your desire for the things in your life. It is in you, just waiting to come out. Once you can recognize this, then you are on your way.

The key to changing your desire is to find a way to control it. You may try to resist, but in the end you will surrender. That will be easier said than done, though. In the end, you must face your desire and accept it if you want anything in your life to change.

If there is no desire, then there is no stress. Stress causes all sorts of problems in your life, including in your relationship. If there is no desire, then there can be no romance.

There are some people who say that having a desire is a good thing. However, having too much of it is not only unhealthy, but it can also cause all kinds of problems in your life. The more desire you have, the more things you are always seeking. You may end up always being disappointed if you do not take control of your desire and allow it to simmer down.

You can keep control of your desire by using visualization techniques. This works in a great deal like hypnotherapy. However, instead of hearing a voice telling you what you want to hear, you visualize what it is you want to have. This is a much more effective way to allow your desire to go down.

Another way is to let it go. The more you resist, the more control you will give over it. This is the whole "do as I say, not as I do" philosophy. It is very helpful for those who need it, but those who don't, it doesn't work.

You might find that you are able to have more desires if you get into meditation or other relaxation techniques. You might even find that you can get more out of sex when you learn how to relax. Don't give in. Make a decision that this desire is going to be a part of your life and then begin to conquer it.

You can be free from all the causes of desire by making the decision that you are going to live in accordance with your desire. In other words, you are not going to do what is not pleasurable to you. If you cannot stand being around someone, don't go with them to eat dinner. If you absolutely can't stand not being able to sleep, don't lay in bed for seven straight hours. If you have no desire to go on living this way, then you have made the first step towards freedom.

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