good question.

for me my life is different from others and no one can live my life for me and i cant withstand someone imposing what i don't want to do on me. Remember the Great Philosopher Socrates said "Unexamined life does not worth living"

if you ended up living the life you don't want to live one might live to regret it. neither people nor situation should not force one to do what he or she does not want to live.