Betrayal is a disappointing event as one remember the love and care, once shared and future well planned ahead. Nothing hurt more than it and it have affected almost everyone. It's a very sad experience that we have lived to share as a form of succor to others and us.

I was twenty seven years ago when I was betrayed and heartbroken. I will never pray for such pitiful and ugly experiences for anyone and even my enemies because of its pain. As I'm writing this article, my memory still fresh on my mind but my last words to her still reassuring and comforting till now. Let me share this disappointment, causes and helps that revamped me emotionally.

After my schooling and training, I wanted to get married as my plans for my life. Since I don't have any serious date, there is a need to have a loyal and religious conscious lady. As one of our proverb said that whenever one wants to married, then you will know that a good lady is scare despite the huge numbers of ladies, I starting scouting for my better half and love of my life.

Due to the need for religious conscious lady, I narrowed my focus among our Christian sisters in our congregation. My eyes cut some of them but with confirmation from other mature people, I decided to stick to one beautiful, skillful and talented young lady. She loved me so dearly which makes the process very simple and easy for me.

We court and dated for one year and some months. I told her my intentions and plans for her never changed. I am ready to make her mine forever. Rather than being excited about it, she had many stories to tell me. I thought that it was a joke and unbelievable. I visited her parents to ask for her hand in marriage but they typically turned me down and embarrassed my whole existence.

Although I have been honest and free with her, she asked for a date on which she will explain everything to me. I waited for her till she came. When we started to talk, tears filled my eyes but I managed to checked her phone as being advised by one of my mature friend. Though it was my first and only time for such action but it was a good. I saw her sent messages to her male bestie where she narrated everything to him and seek his opinion. She told him that I am still unemployed, never build a house and have no assets. I cried when I found out the real reason for breaking my heart. Immediately, when she came back, I promised her that I will be better.

At home, I was hurt deeply and can't eat anything. I cried inside my room and prayed for God's help. God answered my prayers and sent a comforter in the form of my mother. She narrated her very story to me and told that late father was not the first man that seek her hand in marriage but she loved him and agreed. Then, I noticed that my ex never in love with me despite our future plans and she is materialistic.

Finally

Although it was painful experience, but a blessing in disguise. She was materialistic and unreligious. Now, she associated heavily with unhealthy practices and activities that profane humanity. Thank God for that betrayal and now, I have a wife, that want a happy home with me hopefully.