It takes a lot to be altruistic – to look past your selfish interests into a world filled with pain, suffering, and confusion wanting to alleviate some of the misbehaves in your sphere, but then you are confronted with the question of people wanting change–genuine change and not bandages to their pain.
I stumbled upon a tweet by a fellow community member recently who like me is trying to improve the whole social experience on hive. I could sense the frustration in his tweet and it resonated with me because I have been dealing with the same issue--people not wanting the help they need orI think they need.
There are very few people willing to grow anything asides from their accounts. Even when it comes to relationships, it is just a means to an end–earning more upvoting by stroking the egos of a few people with deep pockets. I guess this whole strategy is getting quite old for me and I do understand why people follow this route (I did at some point). I hope we all get past this stage in our hive journey, especially those of us who have been opportune to be blessed by this chain given our long-term involvement. We aren’t in survival mode anymore, and maybe it is time to see past our pockets.
To be frank, my optimism towards some of the projects I am working on has dwindled, mainly because I see past the facade many of us are putting up and maybe this is how it is supposed to be and there is little I can do about it. Maybe I just have a messiah complex and should just focus my energy on myself. Thinking about it, there is so much I can do that I am forgoing at this point. Maybe I am not taking my own advice of being patient and enjoying the process of the building which I know can be tedious at times.
Benevolence
I cannot deny the feeling of fulfilment I get when I do things that don’t benefit me directly (going back to the messiah complex). It is a wonderful feeling to make a difference in your little way and it is such a privilege to be able to give back without having to get anything in return. Plus I have basically everything I need in life and there isn’t any strong motive to want more. I just want to sustain what i can and give as much of myself to the world.
Maybe the world doesn’t need saving
Maybe the world doesn’t need me as much I think it does. I can redirect that energy to the things and people who matter in my life. Rather than trying to make the world a better place, maybe I should focus on being a better partner, uncle, brother, son, etc maybe I can focus on being a better version of myself.
Saving the world shouldn’t be soul-draining. If it doesn’t bring you as much joy as it should then maybe it is not for you. We all tend to believe our lives should matter on some grand scale but maybe we are just regular people trying to do the most.
I started this post a bit frustrated but now it is all smiles. As my fellow Nigerians would say, “I can’t kill myself,” Meaning that I cannot do more than is required or expected of me. We all need to manage our expectations.
The straight truth written in two sentences. This is what only a few people dare to write down. Respect. Most of us are here mostly for the earnings, and I am not going to lie. Me too. So I am not an exception either. But at least I honestly admit it, and I am not lying, like many people. Many people create various lies, instead of writing down the truth.
We have various reasons to focus on earnings.
Please, speak only for yourself. Good for you, if you are not. I live with multiple disabilities, nowadays under the local minimum wage in Hungary. My total income, which is my pension-like income and the salary of my four hours per day packaging part time job, is under the local minimum wage. My total income is approximately only $470 USD per month, while the local minimum wage is approximately $550 USD per month.
Seriously, what is this, if not survival mode? I would not be able to pay my rent in the winter without the help and support of the Hive blockchain. And I am very grateful and very happy for every help and support. So thank you to everyone for every help and support.
And there are many people, who live (survive) in much worse financial situations.
Have a nice day. All the best. Greetings and much love from Hungary.
Sorry about your situation, I empathize with that. I am not living the best life possible, I do have my struggles but I don't want that to be the focal point of my life. So I am focused on making my sphere better, I think that has a ripple effect on my life as well.
Thank God for hive I will. It has been a life saver for many people, including myself.
Lol...ofcourse the world doesn't need saving, you'd get burnt if you keep trying. You can do your bit as the spirit leads yeah, but when it stresses you too much, it's sign that it's not in your place to be the messiah this time.
I really cannot come and go and kill myself.
I think it has to do more with my expectation. I expect people to choose growth and everything that would possible make life better both individually and collectively but for some strange reason people choose otherwise. So I guess I can't change that and so I shouldn't be bothered about it that much
We on HIVE try to do a lot of saving, telling people about what is possible and then getting the crazy stare or no reply/I will check it out. And on that note, you damn right the world doesn't need saving, the ones who need help will seek it out and if it happens to be you who they are seeking it from, well I know you will guide.
As Jamaicans would say.
"Wah mi a kill up misefl fah"
there is a Chinese saying:
I can only help those who need help
Lol how similar our vocabularies are...
It depends, I've formed the best relationships of my life here and I mostly hang out with these people on the low. Maybe it doesn't have to be a Nigerian thing, but people who understands themselves on a deeper plane. It's true that most relationships here are to the money end. We have to also remember that asides that there are psychological aspects to forming relationships as well. People sometimes don't mix due to so much, and when money becomes the bond, then that bond is loose. Let's not make money the reason for every meeting or hangout whatsoever, then you'll see people who are ready to be friends. Many don't want to be friends beyond what they'll benefit and I've witnessed this a lot. Just ride it out.
Same here...
My heart is drawn to people in my sphere mainly because I understand their reality and how much this can change their lives. So it's sort of a personal project. Most of my core friends and colleagues here aren't even Nigerians.
True that. And to add: relationships vary on different level, emotional, financial, etc. We certainly cannot connect with everyone on the same level.
Well, thanks for that detailed one, we would do our best and leave the rest. This issue is dicey and taps into so many fabrics. Hopefully it gets better.
It's the same in real life too. People just look at what they can benefit from one another and move the other way when they think the friendship doesn't profit them. While that is a good thing, it takes away genuine relationships where you just love people for who they are.
Shouldn't have to be this way actually monetary value isn't the only value we should attach to people. Basically there are Incentives to loving people, but it goes beyond materialism because it should be a marathon, not a race.
Don't change what you'd rather do because it seems no one needs you. They do - you might not need to save the world but you could save one person, and that'd mean the world to them. Hang in there.
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You are right Amy. I am here to help as many as I can. A step at a time they say.
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I think this is the right perspective here. Looking at your view from a wholistical perspective, we can't change everything in the world far from us, it's gonna be draining but we can affect the world closer to us in our own little way, and that's if they truly needs the help. Life is supposed to be simple.
True that and I try to keep mine this way. Thank you for stopping by. cheers!
When you work for bigger causes, you come accross points where you are too much strained and burned out.
We cannot mould everyone according to our desires, like we cannot stop people from caring for their pockets alone. All we can do is to make our own little efforts to bring change in the realms of our limits.
I am sure those who work for benefiting others are those who enjoy doing so. If they stop doing this, they would feel empty.
True that... And in those times we need to find deep within ourselves our purpose--the reason why we do what we do.
Spot on.
So, you wouldn't feel happiness if you stop being altruistic.
The time of disappointment shall pass. More powers to you
This writeup shakes so many tables.
Even beyond Hive, this is plays out quite visibly everyday.
The tendency to gravitate away from creating value is so high.
I won't say we can really avoid the reality of things and the need to earn, but I will always say - While earning, you can create value. Value would more often than not be rewarded when noticed.
Value is key.
True that. As a creator you learn to differentiate between what people want and what they need and provide a healthy mix of both. This way you stay relevant and pay your bills.