Building meaningful relationships can be really hard but then, in the end it is always worth it. Have you ever thought of how many friends you would have had this year if you had just said sorry when you didn’t? Or even shown an appreciation for what they’ve done for you? It was so hard and it felt like if you did you’d lose your self worth, so you just could not bring yourself to doing it and you’d rather lose that friend or whoever they were. Well, you are not alone, I have been there before and almost every now and then, I get to that point and the circle continues.
Most times, we find it so hard to understand why all of these keeps happening but then, it’s worthy to note that, nothing good comes easy. But the interesting part is, even bad things do not come easy too and that is why we struggle most times. We are not sure if it is time to give up on building a connection or we shouldn’t even think about it. I have had my struggles too and it is based on my personal experience I thought of sharing what and how I have planned to handle things as they unfold.
The truth is, it is hard to have a formula that works for every situation, we can only try our best to make it work. When it comes to dealing with people, it is hard because we all have our different perspectives on different things and these perspectives, whether right or wrong, defines how we tend to relate with others. Everyone is always trying to prove their perspectives as the right one and this is mostly what causes strive in relationship building.
Rather than focusing on learning what the best way is to go about things, we are more concerned about not losing in a conversation and we end up finding ourselves in a position where we question what we have built with others. We are all humans and no matter how much we try, there is no man who knows it all and I believe that is why we have each other in the first place. The more we try to learn from each other, the better we become but the moment we try to stick to what we have always known as the right path, it becomes hard.
I remember once, I had a conversation with a friend and when I heard their perspective on a particular topic, I was totally impressed and I learnt something new. Of course, that conversation made me interested in a lot of things and I didn’t just accept whatever was said as true or false, instead, I made my research and I was amazed to know I have had the wrong perspective for a very long time. It was a struggle for me, I didn’t know how to let my friend win at first but after learning of the truth myself, it became easier for me.
After that conversation, I realized that, the perspective we have about something of someone is mostly one sided. We just hear a part of the story and we just somehow accept it as the right one but that isn’t the best way to go about things, especially when our attention has been drawn to it. I know, it’s so hard to have someone correct us, especially when we know that we should be more knowledgeable than the other person. Just like in our world today, it is most times hard for parents to listen to the advise of their children and this is because, they believe that they know better than them.
Over time, if that parent continues to ignore listening to their children, it becomes really hard to build a good relationship with them because the child will feel like their voices are not being heard. And that is almost similar to some relationships we build today. In a relationship, our thoughts, ideas, interests and so on, needs to be related between those who are building such relationships. If it is one-sided, it is almost impossible for that relationship to strive well as it should.
Communication they say, it’s a key in any relationship to do well and personally I agree with this because, the more you communicate with people, the better you understand the perspectives they have about things and the more you learn to unlearn some things that needs to be unlearned and vice versa. So, one of the best ways to stop a relationship from growing, is by ceasing to communicate with each other and it’s only a matter of time before such a relationship will find it really hard to grow.
Shout outs to all the amazing people that I have built a meaningful relationship with both on hive and off hive. I know how much we have struggled to get to point we are but I’m always proud at what we have built over the months and years.
Thank you for reading through. ❤️
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