Too much focus on situations kills attitude.

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I have a friend who has a way of making everybody smile in any situation. Anytime I was feeling down or had something bothering my mind he was always the one that I ran to. He was not good with advice, but I know for certain that he was going to lighten up my mood. He always has the right thing to say to make someone smile. So, people love being around him because he is more of a comedian and he does this without effort. He will make you smile without even trying, he was that good. One of the reasons why I love him is because of his positive attitude. There was a time when a terrible event happened to my friend and it changed him.

Over time my friend became colder. He started talking less, someone that I’ve known for years who smiles a lot became a very cold person over time. He didn't socialize anymore, and this was because of the things that he went through, people tried to bring him back because we loved it when he was himself and always wanted to be around him, but my friend lost his positive attitude. I remember when I called him and talked to him about how he had changed, but this did not work. A few days ago when I was checking WhatsApp status, I saw my friend's post and realized that he’s now getting better his smile back after years of losing it. I’ve seen and also heard stories of people with similar situations as my friend.

Situation kills attitude when we focus on it alone

The older we get, the more we realize that things will happen in our life, and what we experience will change us. The truth is, we can choose the change. Most people let their situation change them into things they are not. Some situations or events take away the positive attitude we have. When we focus so much on the situation it looks as if there is no way out, this is why situations can bring out the worst side of us such as a negative attitude and this only makes us antisocial. It distances people away from us, loses valuable people, and can also go as far as losing valuable jobs. We can be better when we focus on the solution or how to move forward.

Situations can either bring out the worst of us or bring out the best of us. I know It is not as easy as it may sound and you might need time to get yourself together, but you shouldn’t allow any situation in life to take away your good attitude or your positive energy, and take away your identity. We must let our situation take the best out of us and make us better. Our experience should be seen as a lesson to make better decisions because nobody is perfect. We will make some mistakes along the way, we should not dwell on too much butwe should find a way to always be positive and make ourselves better no matter what we are going through.

Share and manage

The mistake we make is believing that we have everything figured out and we don’t need anybody. We need people in our life that we can share things with. I know not everyone has the luxury of having good people in their lives, but as a human, there should be one person you can share your thoughts and express how you feel. This helps to free our mind and it helps to manage us in a way because it helps with stress. The best thing you can do for yourself is to manage your stress. The amount of stress we go through day in and day out has a way of changing us over time. We must learn how to maintain stress and share our problems with someone we trust.

You must always remember that people with a negative attitude are not always negative and people with a positive attitude are not always positive. Situations or circumstances and experiences change us into things we are not. We shouldn’t lose ourselves in the process, we must never let anything collect our smile. Don't let the situation take away your identity.

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