The first, strongest, most genuine and lasting relationship is the one established with the mother, she represents our security and support, we need her and miss her immensely when we do not have her around, this is what is called attachment, then we let go as we grow. We have all known the feeling of attachment, it can be a close relative, a pet, a house, a job and even a belief.

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Maintaining a dependency beyond the necessary time becomes harmful, in any direction. Over time, patterns change and another type of attachment can be established, roles are reversed and now the child offers security when he becomes the caregiver.

Some adults understand the situation well and maintain a freer behavior, in other cases, manipulation is exercised, and when the perception of oneself is lost, due to some illness or special situation, attachment becomes a major problem.

There is another very common way, which is the individual who decides to create an attachment situation and deprives himself of doing any activity, because he thinks that he may be needed and he will not be there for the dependent person, he is overcome with feelings of guilt, he anticipates disasters and prefers not to do anything else but dedicate himself to the situation at hand. When for some reason the relationship that kept him tied ceases to exist, he experiences havoc, suffering and emotional overflow that may require help.

I knew a person who never agreed to have a relationship or get married so as not to leave his mother alone; Another person who did not go anywhere without her husband, if she went out she returned quickly for fear of neglecting him, in both cases these people, left alone, due to the death of the family member they cared for, found themselves without projects or goals of their own.

The topic of detachment is often heard as a call to take care of one's own existence, to let go of the ties that limit one's own life, some confuse this with coldness or lack of love and it is quite the opposite. Excessive attachment can be castrating. A person who dedicates his or her own life to satisfying the demands of another, even without them having been asked, loses his or her own direction, as does someone who feels that he or she has no other choice, because it is the obligation that has always been imposed on him or her.

Let us think of that person who stops pursuing a career in another place because he or she is very attached to the land where he or she grew up. An excess of regionalism can truncate dreams. And that person who does not accept invitations to visit a place so as not to neglect the house, plants or animals; or who submits to a slave job because he thinks he has no other way out.

These cases show the issue of attachment as a condition that slows down personal progress. Realizing this is the first step to incorporating elements into life that give some kind of autonomy, that allow you to delegate or negotiate to have some personal time or project that means a necessary respite.

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