I did not think about your body image… thoughtless me… sorry 🙈 THis adds another layer of complicated and I have no clever ideas how to cope. I can only say for me that the perception of other peoples gender often has a lot to do with body language, tone of voice etc. but this is my outside perception… does not help in the least with inside perception. And I fear I am not good with gender roles… mine are perhaps a bit wobbly (and not often thought through, especially regarding others, shame on me)
Although I like to dress with feminine read clothes (skirt, dresses) I am not a big fan of clear gender roles (here it gets complicated for me in English… so if it sounds stupid please blame my language skills). I kind of always assume that everybody could change their gender or maybe I do not feel that certain traits are gender bound (sighhhhhh - language!!!!) and I am sometimes very surprised when friends have super clear sex/gender roles they behave after and which they see as completely fixed.
THis was the attempt to explain why I did not thought about how gaining/loosing wait could help you to identify/accept? your body.
Ok… too long… my comment got too long… and perhaps I completely failed the point as I am not sure if societies norms regarding sex/gender representation do play a role in your inner acceptance.
Feel free to ignore this comment, I again blame the language 😱 (but I tried)
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No, you did nothing wrong at all. I was just commiserating with how it feels like there's not judgement for other people's bodies but definitely some exists for my own.
Yeah, I agree that lots of things shouldn't really be "gender bound" when they're just human traits, and not male/female traits. A lot of people, even if they are cisgender, feel bound by "rules" because of how society thinks genders should act, and it's silly. People are individuals and have the whole range of human experience and limiting themselves because they think "that's a boy thing" or "a girl thing" is just limiting your experience pretty arbitrarily. Like, boys can cry and like to do crafty things (which are generally considered "feminine" things), and girls can get angry and like to play sports (which are generally considered "masculine" things), and to shame people for it is ridiculous.
In fact, one of the big reasons I think why I didn't realize I was trans until later in life is because I just thought I was "doing feminism" like NO DO NOT TREAT ME WITH YOUR STEREOTYPES OF HOW YOU THINK GIRLS SHOULD BE RAWR and it didn't quite register that it wasn't just about expectations and stereotypes for me but something far more. Like I thought I was rebelling against social expectations but really I just felt wrong all around and I didn't have the words for it.