Have you ever Heard the statement l, “people make people bad” 😅.
So my colleague was explaining her plight to me this afternoon about her roommates trying to compete with her by venturing into the same business that she has been doing in the same space for months. She emphasized that she doesn't really have a problem with it, but the issues she has is that they are bringing it to her in an unhealthy way, like kind of a toxic competition in the market space.
These people in question are her friends and they all sleep in the same room, she supports them all-round, even if they were to start a business ,it should be in her space and all of that.
Well I had some clues for her to step up her game and get her customers back. But her second story did resemble what I went through last school session. Her main bone of contention is that one of this girls is someone she accommodated when the girl didn't have where to stay last school session. Ever since then the girl has been living off her. The girl has joined forces with other people to disrupt her business. She no longer patronizes her host, she redirects customers to the other party when this other one is not around and other miscellaneous behaviors yet she is living off this Girl.
She is supposed to be loyal to this other party and be kind of supportive to her host, not the other way round, being a snitch. I had almost similar issues like this last semester with my roommate. We stay and sleep together, I have been very supportive of her ever since we met and our relationship has just been like a sister relationship. Everyone in school knew about us as we were always seen doing things together including taking a shower together.
Last school year , she started giving off some negative energy towards me. She became totally different and I questioned some of the energy she put towards me in my heart. Nothing happened, we never got into any fight but then her actions were as though we were quarreling. Well she made a new gang with some other people, they started reading together, and carried other activities together behind my back.
Well it was a very strange one though, but with time, I got to detach myself completely from her and I have done very well. Less stress, no additional expenses, my items will last longer and since we started this semester, I haven't really had the time to spare as I am focusing solely on my goal there and myself I believe most times she'll just sit and be like how did we get here.
Secretive and mischievous behaviors, lack of support, betrayal of confidence and many other unfriendly behaviors like this can only be wrapped around disloyalty and breach of trust. I believe in reciprocating energy, it's not vengeance but it's a give and take thing. Mine would be that when once I sense any act of smartness and disloyalty towards my kindness, I get detached ASAP. I don't want to look bad, so I might not say a word but being mute and getting detached works way way better for me.