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RE: Obsessively Me

in Reflections8 days ago

One of my daughters is like this. It is crippling. She's very good at her job because of it, though. Fear of failure, even when operating at a very high level.

I wonder if it is fear of failure, or fear of being blamed for failing - There might be a nuanced difference about external judgement?

Man did I have to fight the temptation this evening, just before writing this comment, to pour myself a drink. That's my illness.

A problem temptation, or a healthy one?

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A problem temptation, or a healthy one?

Definitely a problem temptation. Last night was the first time that I was ever aware of the invisible force that pulls me toward the bottle. I noticed that I was in a trance. I had to snap myself out of it, and just head up to bed, where I slept unusually soundly.

or fear of being blamed for failing

I don't know what it is with my daughter. She has been this way since a very early age. If she is at all unsure about any tiny little thing, she becomes certain she will fail spectacularly. For high school she would do 7 hours of homework every night to make sure she didn't fail, and then score top marks. Every time. Now, she falls apart over stuff like forgetting to use Ms. before a name. The problems seem to be around offending someone. I blame Obama.