Hello friends of this community; What it means to be an emotionally strong person, it is that person who is able to deal with problems more easily, it is someone who trusts themselves, what is put to this would be someone who has a lot of insecurity who constantly questions themselves that they always feel with low self-esteem, with low confidence, that person will have more vulnerability and fragility and therefore it will be more difficult for them to manage their emotions.
What happens with these people is that they interpret situations in a way that diminishes themselves, this in turn makes life more difficult, heavier, so to have greater well-being and face life with more emotional strength we need to work on our self-confidence.
Another characteristic of someone emotionally strong is adaptability, the ability to adapt, to be flexible in the face of obstacles that may arise, think for example of the pandemic situation, many people changed, the work format of many people changed and those who were able to adapt more easily managed to deal with the changes in a much healthier way emotionally.
People who were more adaptable and were able to work from home, instead of going out every day, were the ones who best emotionally managed that period. On the other hand, rigid people who always want things to be done their way have much more difficulty dealing with changes. Emotionally speaking, these people may seem strong, but when changes come, they fall apart and become completely unbalanced, for example, if they have to move house, or change jobs, or move cities, or sometimes even everyday things.
For example, you leave home because you have a meeting and suddenly your car breaks down and you have to reschedule the meeting for another day and change the entire planning of your agenda, there are people who become unstructured, who get very stressed by those small changes and that shows the difficulty of adaptation and this leads them to suffer more and have a much heavier life, a more complicated day to day, what we want here is to have a lighter day to day, a lighter life.
Emotionally stronger people manage to handle obstacles better and adapt better and more easily to new circumstances and developments.
An emotionally strong person is one who learns from one's own mistakes, the popular saying says something like "making mistakes is human", but what happens, many of us have a lot of difficulty dealing with our own mistakes, we criticize ourselves, punish ourselves and demand too much of ourselves, any small mistake is a reason to blame ourselves, it's the end of the world and this happens when we are perfectionists, I include myself in this.
We have difficulties dealing with our own mistakes, so we end up having more problems managing our emotions, we tend to be more fragile in that sense, someone who does not know how to learn from their mistakes is definitely more vulnerable, an emotionally strong person learns to laugh at those mistakes, there being in them an opportunity for learning, for growth, for understanding that a mistake or a failure is just a result, that "there is no evil that does not come for better", that this situation does not determine your value as a person, nor does it need to dictate what your life or your work will be like from now on.
Of course it is easier said than done, but many times even I when I go through a situation at work or do something whose result is not what I expected, I question myself, but if you are developing emotional intelligence and you want to become an emotionally strong person when you face a mistake or a bad result it is important that you take a deep breath and ask yourself what can I learn from this what, this situation wants to teach me, what is it that this person came to teach me, what can I do differently next time to get a better result, to have a better performance.
Okay, imperfections are part of life, they are part of the path, if I can't deal with this, I won't be able to grow, I won't be able to evolve, much less become someone stronger and emotionally healthier, the important thing is that you evaluate your mistakes and that you perceive them and learn from them to move forward with your emotions in balance.
Honestly, some days I feel like a godly figure. Life is going all smooth and all fun. But, life is life. Worn out moments are part of it, in these moments, I don't feel broken anymore, maybe just got used to these moments. People think strength iss standing tall, but mine's quieter. I just say this shall pass too and it does 😁.
Btw, Beautifully written/expressed ☺.