Really hope whatever condition Smallsteps is going through she will grow out of soon, or find a way to overcome without too much intervention from Doctors or drugs.
Frame of mind is something to face daily, over and above niggling doubts knowing we should do more, yet hit a brick wall not finding a way or time to climb out the hole that swallows us in when down.
Moments always change
I sincerely hope change happens soon, know you are both excellent parents as I have come to know from reading your posts.
Take care!