There's been times in my life when there's been nothing at all to laugh about; most could probably say the same. Laughter helps if it can be found though, or so I have discovered.
Laughter can be healing, a medicine of sorts, and though it's unlikely to cure brain cancer and other such illnesses, laughter can make bad moments feel lighter, if only for a while.
One of my fears is that my girlfriend will stop laughing at me. She laughs with me as well. I try to make her laugh all the time and she responds; losing that would be devastating.
The things I say and do cause her to laugh a lot - although I can't recall the last time I told a joke, I'm terrible at joke telling. I do and say stupid and funny things that cause her to laugh out loud. She has a nice laugh and being the reason and cause for that laughter makes me happy; I also want to make her happy, she deserves that.
I think it's healthy to have a relationship in which laughter features prominently.
I don't think she'll ever stop laughing because of or at me just like I don't think she'll ever stop supporting me through good times and bad. It's a good situation...but for sure, I feel it would be terrible if we had a relationship without laughter.
What do you reckon? Any thoughts on how laughter can help a relationship and make it more solid? What ways do you make your partner laugh out loud and how does your partner do the same for you? How do you think things would go if the laughter stopped? Any thoughts? You know what to do below.
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I believe joy is always within reach.
Let Me, an impromptu poem
let mirth
power your heart
let joy
turn your world
let me
Quite a lovely poem and words to hold on to, project outwardly and to share.
Girls who have such as you as partners are very lucky; one of the most attractive and endearing aspects of a man is their sense of humor and their ability to make their partner laugh. There's other things besides, but it is high on the list of desirable personality traits.
Becca 🌷
Aww shucks, thanks for saying so. I hope I posses the right mix, I mean I think I do and am not told differently, but I don't like complacency so keep working on it I suppose.
I could say a few things about laughs. Almost feel like being funny right now, just to get one. Seeing/hearing others laugh; that feeling is contagious. And since it's teamwork, that makes it a perfect fit for any relationship.
You asked about it stopping. Laughter cannot be fake. If it suddenly stops, that can only be intentional. Takes effort to maintain disinterest.
You're an incredibly funny chap, I know this because you made me laugh many times so if you did something funny right now I think you'd get the intended response.
Your last lines...yep, I totally agree.
Without laughter, there is no relationship, only obligations. That would be more like having a business partner than a life partner. Ya'll got a good thing going and the laughter only makes it stronger!
Yeah, I think we have a good thing going, she's a good girlfriend and I'm
awesomespectacularreally good...well, sort of good. Look, let's just call it occasionally good. Or...not too bad generally. 😬lol don't worry...she's gonna keep you around as you are 'fairly okay' lol. I'm sure she has much better descriptive terms!
If you can make a woman laugh, you have conquered half of her heart, after all who would want to stay with a person that never makes you laugh? We all want joy in our lives, of course it can't be always a laugh, but that's an important part
I also have tendency to make laugh, not with idiotic stuff or brainless jokes though, more like with observations, barbs or pointing at things, good comic movies help too
Trust me, she doesn't laugh at me when I've done something dumb and she's mad with me, but mostly she laughs every day, that's my goal.
I hear what you're saying about the observations and stuff like that. I tend to have a quite dry humour mostly and often it's the way something is said/delivered I guess too. Generally though, if the two people are connected well and close, the laughter comes.
I also believe it's healthy that laughter plays a prominent role in relationships, as laughter is generally accompanied by joy, happiness, or fun, But it's good that it's a mutual feeling of having a good time, because some people have a rather hateful sense of humor.
Laughing at silly things and jokes that you wouldn't say in front of just anyone says a lot about the level of complicity in the couple and how comfortable they feel being together.
Yep, I don't disagree with you at all and I'd rather be the cause of laughter spontaneously than through joke-telling. It's more natural that way. I say and do things each day that make the girl laugh and it brings us both happiness and joy. I count us as fortunate as some don't have that in their lives.
An instant or prompt banter is much better than telling a scripted jokes. A relationship is all about enjoying and laughing.....BTW she has a good sparkling smile ✨️...🫣
Yeah for sure... spontaneity is key. And yeah, she has a winning smile for sure.
💯% the same here. Not a joke teller.
I work very hard to laugh at this worlds irony & insanity. It sure is better than the alternative of assuming the fetal position and sobbing like a little bitch.
There's not much to laugh about, especially if one buys into the bullshit. We have to make the good times happen, deny negative and promote the positive internally and externally.
I'm always the wag in every relationship, yet most of my beaus have turned out to be jokers...just not of the amusing kind.
Oh yeah, that type of joker is rarely any fun. You strike me as a funny person so I'm not surprised to hear you say it.
Definitely essential for relationships. Having insider jokes, like lines from movies (my GF does not like to cook at all and is not very good at it, so every time she cooks for her daughter, I asked her "But you didn't make stew, did you?", referring to the Lord of the Rings movie, which makes her laugh). Silly behavior, weird routines, everything that is not normal and awakens the feeling of complicity in a shared laugh is maintenance. And/or healing.
We don't match 100%. I'm very self-critical, so I don't mind people making jokes about everything about me. She still has spots that are to be treated with caution, some things not to joke about - which I don't really have anymore. I guess I can tell by now when someone is just being funny, and when someone is trying to hurt, disguised as humor.
I think it sounds like you've got a nice balance and mix going on, probably what makes things go great for your relationship, keeps things interesting and exciting. Well done.
It's working very well for 6 years now, which is my longest relationship. And it's the first time that I have the feeling that it'll last forever, if no outer force drives us apart.
I'm just sitting in my mom's kitchen, and one of the first pictures of us is framed on the table. Me and Ellie sitting together, why 2yo Lily is sitting on my lab. Beginning of 2021 - we still have masks around our necks. And it looks like we're conspiring something to laugh about, as she's saying something and I'm already laughing.
A good snap...and six years...seems like you've got a good thing going.
You have to be able to laugh and have fun as much as you have to be able to deal with difficult things right :)
JJ and I do make each other laugh a lot (both at and with, though I think he laughs at me a lot more than I laugh at him coz I do and say stupider things more often, he is the much smarter one out of the two us XD) and that does help a lot (couldn't say precisely why, but it does).
The photo is still really nice even blurred :)
I'm quite accustomed to having the girl laugh at me, I like it and am often playing the fool to extract a laugh. She obliges. It's healthy.
What makes you say J is the smarter?
Love it, I'm pretty sure J does the same XD Agree that it's healthy :)
I don't think my wife laughs at me as much as she used to, but she tolerates me and as long as that keeps her around, I am okay with that :)
You're ok with being tolerated by your life partner? I had a laugh because surely you're joking.
Most the time. I'm pretty sure I do annoy her at times though!
Our job is to annoy our partners, and then make them swoon with happiness and delight the rest of the time.
Done and done!
I assure you that without good humour and laughter a couple will not work in the long run. For me it is fundamental to laugh together, to make him make me laugh and listen to his laughter, because his laughter makes me laugh and it becomes a good vibe that is contagious. For me, good humour, dialogue and understanding are fundamental in a relationship. I'm not good at telling jokes either but I do make people laugh and I love it!
How do you make your partner laugh and how does your partner do that in return?
Talking nonsense, a lot of nonsense!!!! I assure you that I laugh a lot, we laugh at life itself, at the simple things and at ourselves.
Ah ok, makes sense.
We are not good at telling jokes and my hints sometimes don't get through but everyday life leads to laughter and that's great! In particular, I like to be with someone whose laughter makes me laugh.
Firstly greetings sir seeing you after a long time, well today’s topic is looking me sensitive because when a boy makes a joke or try to make his girl laugh sometimes the things are also getting complicated and girl really get offend and take the joke or words personally basically depends on the situation. But at the end “laughter is the best medicine “ and always make your girl laugh and have healthy relationship
Telling jokes, especially offensive ones, is not really the way it's done generally, there's other ways to bring humour into a relationship.
I'm just trying to create a mental image of a relationship without laughter. Everyone will just be frowning. They would be easily provoked.
Laughter they say is medicinal not because it can actually cure any medical issues (none that I know of) but because when the right person makes you laugh, it instantly takes away every painful moment you had and it gives you peace and a sense of security.
I think laughter is a good thing. I don't really know how to crack jokes, but I always know how to make my ex laugh. Unfortunately we're not longer together and it pains my chest. Haha....
I remember one time when I made her laugh soooo much to the extent that my neighbor had to plead with us to keep the laugh down. Lol... Those are some good times ya'know and I will give anything to re-live it one more time.
Yes, pretty much a summary of what my post said.
I’m a woman but I like to make my partner laugh, I really got sense of humor and being funny most of the time. I think I got it from my dad lol :)
What sort of things do you do to be funny?
Like singing HAHAHAHA
That'll do it I suppose.
I think first of all, we men need to know our partners love language, maybe that fan ease or fasten the intimacy and bond, automatically peace, laughter and closeness is inevitable @galenkp laughter itself can't be occuring all the time, but a settled mind is more vulnerable and paramount.
For certain, probably.