some unhappy moments totally break us.
They do, I completely agree...and some people commit suicide for that reason, quite often in fact. But if a person hasn't ended their life...well then, it seems like they want to stick around and maybe apply some life lessons from the past for a better future. Whining about what happened, won't help the future.
Time is the biggest healer
The right thoughts, attitudes and actions are the big healer, and that can take time. Don't you think? Time itself doesn't do much but move a person closer to their ultimate demise.
I understand you lost your grandmother and that's certainly difficult. We lose people to death all the time...All four of my grandparents, both my mother and father, friends and family to death by suicide and natural causes...You will die too someday, as I will, and everyone we know. It's part of life. I guess what's important though, is what we do before we die.
Yes it is true that those who don't commit suicide, will stick around their past but there is possibility that they get something in future which help them getting back into life..
That something might be a human being and in most cases it is the opposite gender. Or it might be anything which can divert that human from his past.