Hi Galen, I'm glad to hear that this experience has made you decide to be kinder to yourself.
I have never been a friend of asking for help, I don't know if it is because of fear of rejection, or that asking for help is a demonstration of weakness or not to bother, or sometimes simply because I believe in meritocracy. The truth is that I don't know.
But, on two important occasions in my life I have had to ask for help. One with my father's illness. The response from family, not in all cases, from some friends, and from state services was so discouraging that as a family we had to make some decisions. One of them, on my part, was to quit work for a while to focus on caring for my father (and my mother).
And like in the movie "Lorenzo's oil" I started studying on my own, looking for the latest in research, and training in other types of (unofficial) medicines.
In the end, help came. I met people who helped us and from whom I learned many good things.
The other time I have decided to ask for help, is at this moment in my life and for work reasons, and I can say that it has been quite difficult for me to do it.
A hug
It's always funny to see people call me Galen when people (in the real world) call me something else. Anyway, just an observation.
I don't think there's anything wrong with asking for help, it just doesn't come easily to me is all, I'm independent and also don't like to impose on others...but sometimes we must and I know there's people out there (like me) who really like to lend that assistance. But yeah, it's not easy for me to ask for help.
Hi Galen 😁, I don't think asking for help is bad either, as far as I can I usually help those who ask me for help (not everyone), also when I am offered help it is easier for me to say no, than to accept it. It is also true that in this I am changing something.
Here, almost time to go back to work, have a great end of the day.