Hi fellow Hiveians,
Today I wanted to talk about how we think we didn't need something, but it ends up that we really do.
The Listing
Is it a sign of getting old..?
It all started for me, with needing to keep a list of the posts that I wanted to write. That has been a really effective way for me to remember the ideas and things that I want to write about. I don't really mind that too much, but am unsure if that's a thing I should be proud of or should be nervous about.
I have expanded the utility of my list making, and have added a few other things to the mix. I've now got lists for the things that I need to buy, things I need to research and other daily activities in life.
I don't know if this is a good thing, but I also think back to when I was a kid and remember that people would write things down all the time and have little notebooks and lists. People go to the grocery store with lists, and I think sadly that it's just a sign of getting older as the people I would see are what I would have considered older, but are just about my age give or take a few years.. damn.
The utility of lists is definitely important and I think part of my aversion to it was pride but that has to go by the wayside when you understand that it's just a fact of life that we need them. It makes us more effective as a person, adult, parent and spouse when we are able to write things down and keep them organized in whatever way works for us. It took me a while to realize that, but I have given into it and actually leaned into it as much as I can.
Part of it has definitely been pride, thinking that I could rely on my memory being really good as it was historically. It still is really good for things that I find important, but unfortunately there is only so much room for things that are important that some things get pushed out and that's a challenge. If everything is important, then nothing ends up being important because it can't all fight for the same space.
If you had asked my wife, she would say that I forget things all the time, but it goes back to the above point. If it wasn't deemed important by my subconscious then it would get remembered for a short time, but forgotten later. I think it's inherent differences between men and women from an evolutionary perspective. I can vividly remember how we got to a place we've only been to once, because I'm the one driving and I am the one who needs to keep the family going. Then there are other things like where did I put the specific tool that fixes the broken device in the corner, because it's my responsibility to fix that and not worry about if we have three eggs boiled or four.
I am still able to remember those things that I deem important, but I have acquiesced the need to get assistance for other elements of life like putting all of the right things into my sons backpack in the morning to get him ready for school. I failed at that task and it was very difficult for me because he relied on me, and I failed him. I now have check lists hung on the door for the different things that we need each morning mainly because it helps keep me accountable, but also everyone else is on board and I'm not the one who forgets something. There may still be an issue or two that arises from this, hopefully not but at least I have the backup mentally and visually to help me with the daily tasks that we need to do, especially when we are in a rush.
What about you, do you rely on lists more and more as you get older? Has it been hard to admit it? Let me know in the comments!
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Dude, this is it!!!!
It's not about getting old. I do agree that yeah, older people are more inclined to do listing (no pun intended), but younger people do it as well, especially if they want to stay organized. I think I've even taken it a notch up. I plan out my entire week with activities, and go further to list (breakdown) the day's goals into smaller tasks through out the day. I've noticed that since I started doing this, I've become a hell of a lot more productive because like you said, I'm more accountable too!
I found this very funny, man😂😂😂
Don't be too hard on yourself, man. You're an awesome dad, and I'm sure that he would've understood it was simply a human mistake. The fact that you're putting in effort to ensure that that does not happen again says a lot already.
Lol it's important that we keep the evolutionary benefits in mind! :D
I'm glad that you've started doing the lists as well, it's important! Being accountable for these things is a good way to look at it, because it helps us be a better adult.
I try to be of the mindset that he would get mad at me regardless so I don't get complacent with producing poor results. It may be weird but it's kind of like when people stay in a poor mindset even if they have a decent amount of money. Complacency is not good in some situations!
Now that I think about it, I'm more inclined nowadays to do lists than when I was younger. But I don't have a problem with the need of some listing to be honest. I've always had a very good memory but as the years go by, it's a bit like what you describe. I still have a good memory but there are things that if I don't write them down I can forget and it has to do with priorities.
My husband on the other hand has liked to make lists since I've known him, so in his case it doesn't seem to go hand in hand with age hehe.
Yeah it's certainly the best to make adaptations as we need them! Some people figure it out earlier and others later but when we realize it, it's good to make the step towards it. I feel in some ways annoyed about it but I’m getting over it haha
I think it's a good thing actually - we don't have to spend our brain/memory for such things when the job can be done using lists. ;)
Yeah I think that's probably the way to go. Be efficient with what we are doing!
Beautiful views and I love what you have photographed.
Thanks they good photos indeed!
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