We have more ghosts than people!
Have you ever ghosted someone?
Did you feel lighter after you ghosted the person?
And no, am not talking about ghosting someone you just met(even though that is still rude behavior).
I mean disappearing from the life of someone who held you so dear.
Y’all did life in years or even months.
The memories could and will not be erased.
You are etched in every action this person does.
What is the glory of ghosting?
I tried ghosting a person I thought I couldn’t do without, at least I did for a month but that month was heavy with :
What would this person think about me not talking to them anymore?
Are they hurting?
Do they miss the seamless conversation we had?
Am I a villain in their story?
What would they tell people made our friendship sour?
I had a good reason to not want to talk to this person anymore but I needed to communicate my reasons and when I did, I felt free to not talk to them again.
At least they now know why our friendship can’t be the same.
I poured my heart into this episode of my podcast about ghosting.
If you did the ghosting and if you were the one that ghosted oh well, I hope you heal.
I think once you are able to communicate what the issue is, there’s definitely no reason to be called ghosting as both parties now understand the need for the distance. But I’m some instances, I want to believe closure is not always the ultimate solution
Yeah definitely it’s not called ghosting after that.
What instances could it be?
When you are trying to communicate with someone but they just seem to find fault in all that you say
It’s now their business at that point, you have done your bid and given yourself the benefit of doubt