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RE: 2022: an emotional review | LOH #114

in Ladies of Hive • 2 years ago

Wow, I never thought of my emotions in this light but, after reading this I am now able to notice that Indeed I struggle with feelings my emotions, good or bad.
When something joyous happens to me, I usually think of others before I react.
For example, if I'm surrounded by people, I usually am more concerned with the atmosphere of the room, how people in there are feeling before expressing any kind of emotion actually. I don't know if that makes sense.
I think it's because I'm a people pleaser so I usually don't want step on anyone's toes.😅

Oh well, I'm happy you shared your moments with us. I can imagine how happy you must have felt holding your nephew for the first time and reuniting with your family after nine months! That's a whole lot of time.
Nice read.

A curious question; What does a Transformational Specialist do?

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    Hello @zitalove 😊

    Thanks for your genuine, thoughtful comment.

    When something joyous happens to me, I usually think of others before I react.
    For example, if I'm surrounded by people, I usually am more concerned with the atmosphere of the room, how people in there are feeling before expressing any kind of emotion actually. I don't know if that makes sense.

    It makes perfect sense, love. This is a learned behaviour that you will have picked up in childhood in order to stay safe. It's a common response in adults, so you're not alone. I know I do the same: I feel more safe sharing my joy or sorrow with certain close friends than I do with most of my family members.

    And even with the people who are good at expressing their own joy and celebrating my joy (or sorrow, or anger, or fear, or whatever), sometimes they might be experiencing something big where my emotion is not appropriate to express. Like being excited at a funeral, probably not a good match for the environment.

    We can all get better at expressing our emotions and making space for others to express their emotions with us. It's something we can learn. And it helps (a lot) if we prioritise building relationships with other people who care about doing the same thing.

    And our subconscious mind will prioritise safety above all else, so if we are in environments/relationships where it's not safe to experience how we're truly feeling, we won't, we'll suppress it.

    What does a Transformational Specialist do?

    I made this term up to try to explain what I do in my work. I help people learn how to transform their lives through giving them access to tools and knowledge that helps them understand themselves, their innate personality and their emotions better. I work with clients and students who want to be their most authentic selves and are willing to prioritise that above most other things that society tell us are important.

    Thanks for asking! !LUV

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      And even with the people who are good at expressing their own joy and celebrating my joy (or sorrow, or anger, or fear, or whatever), sometimes they might be experiencing something big where my emotion is not appropriate to express. Like being excited at a funeral, probably not a good match for the environment.

      I think this is the reason why. Sometimes the environment doesn't complement the emotion.

      I made this term up to try to explain what I do in my work. I help people learn how to transform their lives through giving them access to tools and knowledge that helps them understand themselves, their innate personality and their emotions better. I work with clients and students who want to be their most authentic selves and are willing to prioritise that above most other things that society tell us are important.

      Sounds very practical and helpful. I feel like everyone needs a transformational specialist at one point in life. Well done.

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