Before You Say I Do.

in Ladies of Hive3 years ago (edited)

Love is a beautiful thing and yes, most of the time we are lost in the euphoria of our feelings that we tend to overlook the most important part of it which definitely is “WHAT I DO IS AND ISN’T” Perhaps before you say “I DO”, here are some expectations we should look closely at: What marriage is and isn’t

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Cure for Loneliness: Not to bore you with long talks, if your expectation for Marriage is to find someone who satisfies your need to belong, you may be heading towards a disaster. Yes, we see couples everywhere and we feel there’s something missing from our uncoupled life , we are tempted to type “God when” on every cute picture you stumble on , being alone is hard but it isn’t enough reason to go into marriage and guess what a good marriage will offer this and so much more.

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A Way Out of Boredom: There’s a whole lot of up’s and down’s in marriage, even the happiest of couple on social media have their downtime. So imagine getting married just to have a little bit of excitement in your life, what happens when it’s not the happy season? Trust me; you will start looking for the next exciting thing. Ask yourself why you’re with that person and make sure they are the right reasons.

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Boisterous Sex Romp: Even I am looking forward to the whole sexual experiment with future hubby, sex is an ultimate bonding activity for couples but isn’t the only activity. It wouldn’t be an everyday fifty shades of grey scene, so you may need to tame the whole expectations for this part of the marital journey.

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A Time to Change One’s Partner: Saying I Do may change the legal status but doesn’t change the character or nature of your potential partner. A selfish single person is a selfish married person; an unhappy single person is an unhappy married person. So don’t enter marriage thinking you can remodel your partner or get them to be who you want. If they can’t change before the big decision, you can trust that the possibility of changing after the big step is little to none.

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The transition from singlehood to marriage is huge, are you ready for the truckload of changes? Don’t let today’s feelings land you into greater trouble. Marriage is wonderful, fulfilling and deeply satisfying, there’s no better way to make it through life than having that one person who loves us immensely in our corner. So before you make that big decision, do think things through, don’t make mistakes, look forward to the benefit and expect the challenges also. Expectations are good but are they realistic? As you take necessary precautions, jump in and enjoy the ride.

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I hope to hear your thoughts & opinion in the comment section.
I love you now and always, till I come your way again Shalom!!

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Yes dear. Marriage shouldn't be an escape route for you. It should be entered in by those who understand its worth and cross.

It's so sad to see a whole lot of people use marriage as an escape route or a poverty alleviation scheme.

I feel this has contributed so much to the spike in divorce rate.

Yeah, exactly.

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Nice piece you've got here, the earlier we the stop to imagine things the way we feel like it will be in marriage, the better for us

Marriage is not always easy and at times, can make you a bit crazy, but after 40 years married to my husband, I can say it's definitely worth it! It is work, but it can be fun too. Just remember that marriage isn't something to take lightly. Our society makes it too easy to just 'throw away the spouse' you don't like any more and get a new one. Why put ourselves through that? Marry for the right reasons and work out the problems when they arise rather than trading them for another set. Thanks for sharing!

Glad that you have spent that much time with your spouse. I pray that you continue to spend more beautiful years with him.

Thank you @thoyorsee! I am hoping to celebrate our 75th wedding anniversary in the future, however, we will both be very, very old; it's possible though. Take care!💜🤗

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Brilliant Post dear, well said👏♥️

Nice one Thoyor

Nice post about what marriage is not.

Waiting for the second part you would talk about what marriage in?