Hello friends of this community; Sometimes life puts you in situations where it seems like everything is falling apart, you move house, your routine no longer works, relationships seem unstable and that feeling of loss of control begins to weigh you down.

A few days ago I was just talking to a friend who is going through something similar. She told me that she was nostalgic for the friends she had left behind, that she missed her previous version, that she was now getting into a relationship, but that her insecurities were overwhelming her. keeping me trapped, the comparisons and I felt totally lost, I asked myself why I feel like nothing in my life has meaning? I feel a feeling of emptiness like everything is insignificant and that made me think a lot about my own life.

I am also going through a period of many changes, and that whirlwind of emotions that starting over brings with it, moments in which everything seems exciting and others in which uncertainty takes over everything, right, and that was when I understood it, I thought. What we are experiencing are the pains of growing, growing hurts, changing hurts, but it is inevitable and necessary.

When a baby, for example, begins to grow, it faces moments of discomfort, growth spurts generate discomfort, pain when teeth begin to grow or falls when they are learning to walk, all of this is part of development, everything comes with its own challenge, but it is part of the process, as adults we understand that we cannot prevent a child from going through this.

We know that it is for his good, it is for his evolution and we accompany him, but the curious thing is that when we are growing we want to escape from that moment as soon as possible and from that pain, so we do not want to feel the discomfort, we do not want to feel the doubt, We do not want to feel the discomfort that change brings, but the reality is that we cannot avoid it, growing up hurts and that pain, even if it is uncomfortable, is the sign that we are moving forward.

My friend told me that she felt lost, like she didn't know who she was and I told her something that I also tell myself, and I remind myself when I'm in those days, “you're not lost, you're growing” which now It seems confusion or emptiness, it is simply the space that you are growing for something new.

Many times we want to hold on to things, to what we know because that gives us security, we want our life to move forward, but without anything changing we want to have teeth, but without going through the process of them coming out, those moments of nostalgia, of Insecurity are not signs that you are failing, they are symptoms that you are evolving.

The pain, the doubt, even the desire to give up are not stopping you, they are molding you, they are the necessary stages to become who you need to be, so if right now you feel that your life is in chaos, you are leaving parts of yourself back or that the road is more difficult than you expected, I want you to know this, you are growing! Everything you are facing now is the price of change, but it is also the beginning of something much bigger.

So don't run away from what you feel, embrace it, it is in the midst of that chaos where we learn the most, where we grow the most, in the end you will realize that every uncomfortable step was worth it, because you are building a new life and that is always pretty; “No one can learn to walk without stumbling first,” that phrase came to mind a few days ago as I was reflecting on my own life and the changes I have been experiencing.

Changing countries, reorganizing the routine, rethinking priorities, are moments in which I have felt that I was walking blindly, without knowing if the steps I was taking were the right ones, if I was taking the steps in the right direction and I am sure that you have also gone through something like this, maybe right now you are in a stage of important change in your life, maybe you started a new job and feel that everything is too much or maybe you are learning to live alone, away from your family, away from the people who gave you that security or can that you are in the middle of a personal transition, leaving behind friendships or habits that no longer fit you.

If right now you feel like everything is chaos, that things don't make sense, let me tell you this, you are exactly where you need to be, those uncomfortable moments when it seems like nothing fits, that discomfort that arises when we begin to face our fears, our shadows. , is when we begin to really recognize our history and delve deeper into ourselves and our life experiences, those are the ones that teach you the most and are preparing you for what is to come.

Think with me, when was the last time that something really important in your life came without effort, but a little discomfort, think about it, you are doing well we only grow and mature by going through those types of processes, we are in constant growth in constant maturity and although we will never be completely “ready”; Nor should we pretend to be, we are in a continuous process of development.

And one of the things that hurts the most but that makes us grow the most is exposing ourselves to situations outside our comfort zone. It is natural to prefer the familiar places where we feel comfortable, surrounded by familiar people doing things that we master, but that space of comfort Although it is very comfortable, it is not a place where we grow much.

If right now you are thinking, “I am facing so many things, problems with relationships, problems, financial difficulties, challenges at work, a lot of situations that I never imagined”, I want to remind you something, this is not a coincidence, it is life inviting you to evolve. , to grow, to mature...