I can't remember the last time I took a selfie and when I say selfie, I mean a normal photo of myself, without making silly faces or acting like a fool, hihi. Today I made a few random shots and these three are the most ladylike possible. The thing is, selfies like this have been putting me in a low mood over the past year or two, because I notice changes in my eyes. In my head that feels like a really big problem. So big that I sometimes feel like my whole face has changed and that I no longer look like myself.
Everyone tells me that I'm overthinking it and that there is no person on this planet with two completely identical eyes, hands and so on... The left side of our lips is never one hundred percent same as the right. I am aware of all that, but still, it somehow sends me into thinking that I have changed too much, that this is no longer me, that I look worn out and visibly unwell.
Maybe it's mostly about my shaken self-confidence. I've been thinking about going back to a psychologist, haven't been for a long time. It would probably be good for me to talk about this and other things that bother me, with someone who isn't close to me. And when it comes to a psychologist, in todays world, especially for us emotionally sensitive and insecure, there is always plenty of material for a good and long conversation. (:
• Do you go to a psychologist?
• Or have you gone in the past?
• How necessary do you think sessions with a psychologist are for living a normal life today, with all the thoughts and the overload of information we are bombarded with every day?
I used to go a few times in the past and I was also on a very mild, minimal antidepressant therapy. From early childhood I felt dose of anxiety, and later, during puberty, it increased a bit, so I had occasional short depressive episodes as a secondary response to those social fears.
For the past few years I haven't been taking anything and I don't think I need it now, but I do feel that talking to a professional, from time to time, maybe twice a month or even less often, would really help me relax and learn how to control those silly thoughts and worries.
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Слушај млада дамо, бићу ја твој психолог ако треба. Две речи: прелепа си. Тачка. 😁
Ok, I am not a professional psychologist, I can say just as a woman (a lot older and could say worn out haha) to another woman, that I think that the anxiety we feel from time to time may come from high expectations, mainly self-expectations, but also imposed by others, especially by society that searches for something we can't give or a society searching for perfection...? That perfection is fake, and distant, it is not what would make us happy. Our body changes with time; that is a fact, and probably acceptance mixed with self-love is what can help us. 😇
Thank you, beautiful sweet creature! 🥰 I know, I think I am aware of all that, it is just that sometimes it completely overwhelms me when I see myself kind of distorted in the mirror. Maybe I am slowly becoming a classic hypochondriac. 🦧 I did read somewhere online that sometimes the brain can play tricks on us and make us see certain parts of ourselves differently. But why with eyeeees, aghh.
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I've struggled for years about whether I was this or that; good enough; pretty enough; talented enough. I have never gone to a psychologist before. I understand why one might choose to go, though. Whereas mostly, I'm at peace with who I am, how I am and whatnot now, it doesn't mean that I'm always okay with it all. I think that's just part of human-ness and especially in the world in which we live. The comparisons never stop! I say, if you can gain insight from going-go. If you have a circle (one or more) of friends that you can bounce off of-that too can be a tremendous help!
I hope this helps. Take care and have a lovely day! !LADY
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Thank you so much for your support. I will probably go, although I have been telling myself that for quite some time now and still cannot really make the decision to go. I am inconsistent, that is another issue. One way or another, it often feels easier for me to blend in with the problem, to surrender to it and adapt to living with those thoughts, rather than to make a concrete step toward actually dealing with it.
Thank you once again! Wishing you all the best! 🥰🙌🏼
Take care @bibana! Consider what your next move is (something small) and then do it. Once it's accomplished, the next step will be easier.🤗💜 !LADY
Hello.
I'm so glad you're brave enough to share what's happening to you, especially since you're as beautiful as you are. I say this because many people go through similar situations and need to know that they are not the only ones who suffer from such thoughts.
I don't know your innermost thoughts or life experiences, but I can assure you that you are beautiful. Regardless, it's important that you are able to accept yourself as you are, to love yourself.
Never stop smiling!
I often share my fears with everyone, but very few people from my circle actually take me seriously. xD No one has ever noticed that tangled anxiety in my behavior, literally no one ever except my family, so now when I talk about it, my friends simply cannot believe it. From people I am not that close to, I have even heard that they think it is just " a new way of seeking attention". 😅
Thank you, friend! 🤗