How to support a student with a low emotional intelligence

In our schools today we have plenty of students who have issues with their own personal development. Often enough the parent does not support the student in a way that they can grow and stand on their own two feet. Parents are very protective which is understandable but it becomes a problem when the student is not ready to function normally in their own worlds.

What is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence (EI) refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage one's own emotions and the emotions of others. It encompasses skills such as self-awareness, empathy, emotional regulation, and effective communication, which play a critical role in personal and professional success. Emotional intelligence helps individuals navigate social situations effectively, form healthy relationships, and respond constructively to challenges and stressors.

If you have a student in your class who is NOT coping like he/she should it is the responsibility of the teacher and parent to guide this student into becoming a self-sufficient adult. Here are a few tips to support learners/students with low emotional intelligence.

1. Understanding Emotional Intelligence: Start by educating the student about emotional intelligence, explaining what it is and why it is important in their personal and academic life.
2. Self-Awareness: Encourage the student to become more self-aware by keeping a journal or engaging in reflective exercises. This can help them understand their own emotions and behaviors, as well as the impact they have on others.
3. Empathy: Teach the student to put themselves in others' shoes, understand and recognize the emotions and feelings of others, and respond appropriately. This can be done through role-playing, reading books, or practicing active listening skills.
4. Emotional Regulation: Teach the student how to manage their own emotions in a healthy way. This can include deep breathing, mindfulness, and other relaxation techniques.
5. Social Skills: Help the student develop their social skills, such as communication, conflict resolution, and teamwork. These skills will assist them in building strong relationships with others and managing difficult situations effectively.
6. Encourage Emotional Expression: Encourage the student to express their emotions in a healthy way, rather than bottling them up. Provide a safe and supportive environment where they can open up and express their feelings.
7. Role Models: Encourage the student to look to positive role models, such as family members or teachers, for inspiration and guidance on how to handle emotions.
8. Practice: Emotional intelligence is a skill that can be developed with time and practice. Encourage the student to practice what they have learned and to continue learning about emotional intelligence.
9. Professional Help: If the student's emotional intelligence issues are severe, consider seeking the help of a mental health professional. A therapist can provide the student with personalized support and guidance on how to improve their emotional intelligence.

Remember, helping a student with low emotional intelligence requires patience and understanding. Encourage the student to take small steps towards improvement, and celebrate their successes along the way, because a positive attitude promotes a positive outcome.