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So I have waken up in truth at last? Childhood must really be scam . The things my parents told me then as story of success, doesn't even come near the play in reality. It pains to discover late. You see, that's what doctrine does to people. Make us believe that in some sort of things that are not practical and realistically proven to be truth being a right part to success in life. I know I might not be the only one who have been made believe in these. Some of you people are still there holding to the believe and hoping that some day success will spring out of it. Well, wait until when am done telling you all the stories of my pass.
My early life:
Growing up as a child, I lived with lovely parent who were the world to me. I learnt lots of lessons from them, lessons that are valuable and lifestyle worth mimicking. Life was sweet and so good like becoming an adult wasn't an interest. Everything was made available just before I could even ask for it. Wow!! I got lost in the good days. I never had problems except for my class teacher who threatened to flog me everyday. Aside from that, it was really a good gear. When I grew much older to my teens, within the age of 15 to 20, ok let's say at the age of 20, interest from my parents dropped, no more ask once and get, as it used to be. I started wandering what has changed ?
The unclear truth:
One Sunday in the evening, my dad sat on his couch going through an old newspaper 🗞️, while I came to give him his usual dinner. He looked into my face and told me "sit down" and I did, then he said; " you are growing into a man Ekpez, and I would loved you to have these things in mind". Then he said; " Always remember your love ones, cousins, aunt and old friends and brothers, and then you will find a good success In your life, keep good health and dress good as your dressing might determine your place when you go for occasions". "Keep good connections in religious gathering and be consistent in attending church services, remember heaven at last, as your entire success in life depends on this things". I grabbed his hands and told him, " I will try my best to keep to your sayings I know already am great", He nodded is head. As I was about leaving, he called, "Ekpez! Remember, your mother is your first love". I tried to reason what he meant by "your mother is your first love". MY MOTHER IS HIS LOVE I said, " and someday I will have to find my own love", but then, hunmm!!
Adding to the believe:
On Monday morning, while returning from purchasing bread for breakfast, I heard a tiny voice from behind, It was drizzling so I never wanted to turned, But the voice kept calling, " AFO NYE?", using Efik dialect which is interpreted as " where are you ?" I had to turn, behold it was my grandma, I walked close to her, she smiled. I saw the looks in her eyes; those eyes told stories I believed she had kept them for special days. She said; " you have grown so fast, I believe you are consistent in the church, yes you have to, and also pay your tithe regularly because your wealth is dependence on it", I told her thank you granny. She replied, "AFON" ( good ).
As I turn to leave, an old friend of my father, was just there listening to what grandma told me, and he added; "your grand mother was a queen in her prime and now her old knees and gray hairs are the wisdom of her days. She has said so well, and just remember this too; The faster you run, the more likely you can reach your destination". I stirred at him, I wondered why all this sudden advices. He was looking at me with a smile, his front tooth was plugged out, the rest were at the mercy of his gum. His left eye was like one who had a quick surgery. I quickly said; " thank you papa", then I left.
The real life begins:
The faster you run, the more likely you can reach your destination.
At the each of 23, I left my parents to live alone. My dad usually advised me to always remember and keep connecting with my relatives and friends, I did this at all time. I bought good dresses, I was consistent in church and kept my tithing as my priority, of course have been told tithing is my wealth. I pursued friendship and connection with people from the same religious ground. My focus as always been to be very successful and wealthy. And with tithing, living healthy and connecting with friends and family, I can achieve these. So I kept pressing towards connection with love once and cousins, I shared my job opportunities and life with them, and they shared theirs too with me. I noticed that nothing did change in my life, with all the connections have made. With all the tithe I paid. From my age of 23 to 25, it was still the same. I had to rethink, and think again and again.
Light in the dark/ the breaking truth:
The thinking mind is a growing mind. One thing that did crossed my mind, was the old man's saying; the faster you run, the more likely you can reach your destination. Well, this saying was a trap. A well designed and deceitful. The truth is, you can not run faster in your pursuit in life, every stages of levels must be completed and lessons to learned. A person who attempt to run fast, will likely missed valuable levels in life and of course might be taking shortcut.
A saying goes that; "there is no shortcuts in life". This word made me leave my parents at the age of 23 even when my financial status wasn't strong enough. So the money I should have added to build my life while staying with my parents for awhile, I started using them to pay for rents and feed myself.
The faster you run the more likely you can reach your destination. This saying is a lie. I believed in it, and now I realized, it was really a play on me, It could be unknown to the old man, maybe in his days he did what he did and found success. But had he found success, what was really of his life that was worth noting as being ascribed to success and wealth ? Humm!! Now, the connections I kept with friends and relatives was really a scam. I discussed with them of my job, careers and expectations, because they did same also with me, but hey! This was really a scam. Most of this people you call friends and relatives do not love you and they do not wish you good either.
A shocking replying from one of my elderly aunt reveals their hidden mind and hatred. While we were discussing family growth and success, a reply from her was; " And do you think I can sit to see most of you succeed than my own kids ?",
Shocking, sticking. "I thought we were family? And one man success should be the happiness of everyone ?", I thought that within me. I quickly withdrew from their midst, like nothing was happening with a smile 😊 . I concluded that my dad was wrong about this, so I never believed in family connections anymore. No body wants to see you succeed as your father and mother, not even your brother, let alone a friend or Cousins. Success is totally a personal race that must be structured and well planed by you, you and your God alone.
Tithing is your wealth: Another word that got me nearly to empty my account. This is a religious trap, and old tell by religious fanatic. No! Very wrong! Totally wrong. If this was truth, my grandma could had driven the best vehicles in the world, own luxurious houses and own lands even leaving them to her descendants. You see! I grabbed a cup of coffee and with my legs spread on my desk, while getting my mind through these things. "So have been played ?", I asked myself and now it seems the scales as fallen off my eyes ? So I have woken to the truth and the real life in pursuit for success? In deed a believe that looked like gambling. Now the experience from real life as caused me to disbelief all these advices. Paying of tithe maybe good, but not a ticket to wealth, but could be a source to renewable ideas. I came to know all these, so I change my believes.
one thing that strikes my mind was that: our parent were not heroes, they were like me. But I needed to be a different person.
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I told someone, unless your parents are where you want to be in life, listening to them is disastrous. You realised this on your own. So many lies fed to us as children.
You are right my dear
I still have a friend who told me he went into pastoring leaving his talents as an engineer bcos he was told he would only succeed doing what God wants him to do which is being a pastor.
Now tell me ,who gave him the talent of repairing televisions and phone without learning it for a day , God will not give him this talents if he does not want it for him. He didn't agree at first but his parents made him do it that it was from God's mouth. Now, he is there in his mate Dm begging for #2k. Life has changed, what worked for our parents then might not ,is not even working now. We just have to reason and know where we are going and what's will be good for us not bcos that's what my parents said it's good
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STOPA heart-touching post.