They say scars heals, when the time is right, every wound heals with time, but, i don't think this saying goes for people who have suffered in the hands of the people they loved.
Imagine being taken for a fool and used roughly, disrespected, disappointed, cheated on, over and over again, back stabbed by your loved one, beaten, and also, the same damn person comes to your front to tell you; I love you babe, then, you, you who think love is all about patience and sacrifices, believe in their words and stay back in the relationship. Tell me, if you finally leave that relationship, will you ever be loyal in any relationship again?
Love is not just about patience and sacrifices. Why make sacrifices for someone who will never acknoledge your sacrifices?
Love, love is a bitter-sweet pill that people subconsciously get addicted to without even knowing it. Its good to love, Its bad to be stupid in love, but then, the big question here is, can somebody love another person wholeheartedly without being stupid for love? is it good to love with the brain instead of loving with the heart?
Many people have passed through many different thing for love. Men becoming wiser and more stingy because they invested in a female that ended up disappointing them. Also, women becoming more reserved, distant and lack love for her current date because she was heart broken in her previous relationship.
We are all different people with different characteristics. Its better to get inner peace and be free from pain than to be in something that will cost your happiness and peace.
In our world today, i feel like the word "love," has actually lost its value, as it has been constantly used for the purpose of manipulation and other dark purposes.
What is the point of love when, all both parties want is, sex and material things? They call themselves baddies, and players.
If you try to be kind, if you try to be a gentle man, she takes you for a fool and try everything possible to milk you while telling her friends that you are just another guy that is crazy because of her beauty.
Also, if you try to show your wife material qualities to the man you love, you get taken for a lady that is desperate to get married, so, he goes out and cheat on you with somebody you're better than, and they tag it that; "its in the nature of men to cheat."
Honestly, at this juncture, i dont know where to go. Should i go to the left where love is used for the purpose of lies and manipulation, or should i go to the right where being in love gets you used, called a nagging girlfriend, called an obsessed person, and someone who is desperate.
This generation is full of people who are broken, kicked and abandoned by the one person they loved. I love this generation, but honestly, from the top and bottom of my heart, i will take a sip from this cup of coffee and give a middle finger to all these manipulative people that makes it difficult to fall in love.
The world will try to make you into someone that you are not. If you turn to what the world wants you to be, then, you're a loser. Be strong, be kind, be caring, even if it hurts, put out love and kindness, show your best qualities without expecting nothing in return. Also, know your limits and know when to back out in other to secure your peace. The walls have ears and eyes, so, trust me, all these good things you put out in the world, will one day, find its way back to you.
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It is not easy to love with the brain, I mean love they say is blind. Once you genuinely fall in love with a person, you overlook some soft red flags because it's her or him: would give excuses for their mistakes.
But loving with the heart but taking your brain along is better. You now when to call your partner out to correct their mistakes, express how and why you didn't like a thing.
Low key, the balance is not that hard. Love yourself first, love with your brain and heart, that way you wouldn't accept things you don't like all in the name of love. Love is not what we used to know it as because somethings have been hyped beyond necessary and the outcome (pain and regret) is what people talk about. Men are scum, ladies are gold diggers, how and why was that a conclusion ?.
Woooo... This love matter can be crazy at times bro😅.
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Well, I think the word, "Love" may have been abused by a lot of people who don't know what it truly entails.
But I believe that love is real and exists and you can go about it with your heart as well as your head.
I do not believe to be disloyal to the next person just because you were cheated on in your last relationship. That's no definition of love. I believe that love is a risk and could go either ways. If my heart is broken today, I will work on myself and try again with all my heart with the next person I get with. I know how hard it could get, but don't let your bad experiences hinder you from the beauty that is waiting for you in front.❤️
I totally understand your sentiments. Look, what I’ll say is to start from within. Finding love begins from within. You need to first accept yourself, accept you’re not perfect, work on yourself and trust me, you’ll see what people try to hide.
Your reflection on love's challenges is powerful. It’s tough to love fully without being hurt, especially when relationships are manipulative. Balancing kindness and self-protection is key.