To what extent should parents shape our aspirations

Growing up, I faced the reality of pursuing my passion and dream,fulfilling my own dreams.

This internal conflict sparked reflection on parents' roles in shaping children career paths in most homes. Some parent want their child to do and go for what they(the parents) wants,and its not like that,while their guidance can be valuable, helping us avoid pitfalls, explore opportunities, and develop valuable skills,they(parents)overstepping can lead to resentment and unfulfilled potential.

Parents involvement to me should only focus on encouraging exploration,sharing insights and knowledge to empower us to develop critical thinking, problem-solving skills and adaptability. Communication is vital, requiring us children to share our aspirations, fears, and doubts while listening to their concerns and advice to find common ground and understanding.

However, parents must recognize and respect our unique talents, interests, and values, they should avoid projecting their own unfulfilled aspirations onto us. Forcing us do what does not interest us.
Overcontrolling leads to rebellion,regret, and sacrificing own dream for parents happiness.

My parents for example,would advise you,talk to you,and all all,my mum and dad would bless you in whatever you choose to do just that they would really want to know if truly thats what you really want, be it learning trade,handwork or studying a course in school.

Most times my dad do talk about some certain professions like,engineers,lawyers,I guess he likes those two but he never for once asked any of us to go for it,he only shows interest in it and ready to back us up.

My younger bro just gained admission to the university, my dad was not ok with the course,they were like,we have to do changing of course even though it will cost some amount of money.

I walked up to them and said no,ask him,though the cause e was given wasn't what he choosed,dont take steps behind him else you will be the one to be blamed,you might think you helping,he(my dad) was somehow about it,I told him,you did not choose for any of us his older siblings,why will you do for him,he felt reluctant somehow and later he called my junior bro to ask him if he should go ahead with changing his course, he responded immediately as if he was expecting the question,"no,don't, I like the course,leave it"... thats it.

Just guide us,we could learn from your experiences but you can't mandate something for us to do.its our life and you wont live it for us.

My mums friend told us a story of a guy whose parent want him to become a pharmacist,they insisted,he went to the university, graduated as a pharmacist,and upon collecting certificate he went home,appreciated his parents for everything they have done and then gave his parent the certificate and said "this is what you wanted,I have gotten it for you now am going to pursue my own career in acting"

Parents shouldn't dictate our career paths,instead, they should guide, support us,and we are to stand our ground and take charge,in other to create a life that brings fulfillment.

Thanks for taking your time to read through.

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