How I Lost A Friend Because I Refuse to Hug Him.

Few days back, I was discussing with one of my friends, and our discussion led us to she asking me what was the pettiest reason I stopped talking to someone. And I responded. And I felt I should share the story here as well. This was a long time ago anyways, say 2 years 😅.

Well for me, I lost a friend because I couldn't hug him chest to chest.

Lol 😅.

Ok, I know it may not be much of a big deal, but then this things happen.

Growing up, I wasn't much of an outdoor person, I never had reason to interact with guys like my other age group.

I actually didn't see it as a problem, until I had to leave home and move to the university, then I discovered first of that I can't look at a guy eyeball to eyeball.

Ahn ahn 😅. What is this!

It wasn't funny at that time trust me, but I have been able to build myself to a point where I can now maintain eye contact.

Infact, now ehn, I can look at you till you feel uncomfortable.

Anyways, I met this guy. His name was laphtar.

I met him in a church setting, he came to minister as a dancer for one of our drama session.
He noticed me obviously, and we started talking from there on.

I ended up knowing that he was a graduate who was just still around the school for one or two things.

That wasn't much of an issue for me by the way, but I started having issues when I noticed that whenever I go to read outside of my hostel probably in the academic area, I see him everywhere!

Like, what are you doing here?
How come you're here too?

I had to ask him at some point if he was stalking me.

He said he wasn't and it was just coincidental that we kept bumping into each other.

After a lot of "Are you sure?" between us, I decided to bring down the walls around me a little.

I started talking to him frequently. We hanged out a few time. And yes, I still bump into him whenever I go to read.

On this faithful day, I had just finished reading around past 12 midnight, and I was on my way back to my hostel when I bumped into him again. He decided to walk me the remaining distance to my hostel.

When we got to my hostel entrance, I told him thank you, and was about to move in, when he drew me back.
"I thought we were done with this conversation?" I asked myself even as I turn back to jim.. But I still decided to indulge him.

My mind was trying to understand what was happening, and in a way I felt uncomfortable a little. And one could be because it was quite late, and it was just the two of us outside, in almost a dark place.

He looked into my eyes, and told me to hug him.

Oh, my mind came down and I just smiled.

And the normal me, hugged him sideways like I would hug any of my male friends.

He drew back and looked at me, and said I was behaving like a church girl.

Yes ke, I am a church girl o 😅🤲.

After so much persuasion, he finally cajoled me to hug him chest to chest.

Oh dear!

After departing that day, we still kept communicating.

But something happened, for every time we met, he requested that I hug him chest to chest.

After indulging him for a while, and I realise how uncomfortable I was getting with his incessant request, I had to tell him that can we stop it, and that I'd rather hug him side way.

He looked at me, and called me a old school church girl.

I wasn't bothered about the name anyways 😅. I have been called many.

I reached out to him, one or two times after that time to check up, and he never responded.

The next time I saw him, I was coming back from one of my numerous night reading, and I noticed him hugging a lady chest to chest. I can't say how long it lasted, but it was more than a minute hug.

Don't ask me how I knew 😛. Maybe I decided to watch the time for them.

Since then, whenever we see each other, it is always a "hi hi"

So tell me, what was the pettiest reason you lost a friend?

I'd love to hear from you.