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RE: The "A Mother To All" Tag: An Overdue Discovery

in Hive Naija4 days ago

You are absolutely beautiful <3 I had to laugh at your segment about not smiling! I have the same problem. It's called resting bitch face! hehehe. In truth I look like that because I'm concentrating hard, or just trying to see you - I have terrible eyesight 😂😂

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That's funny!
I hope they just let us be, smile whenever we want to and rest our faces when we want as well 😀

absolutely! I hate it when people (especially men) say "You'd be a lot prettier if you smiled." Like giant eye-roll here 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

 4 days ago (edited) 

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I can totally relate
Do they mean, I'm a little ugly without the smile? 😂

I think they want us to smile specifically for them... to make them feel better about themselves, and while making someone genuinely happy is great, the intention here is horribly self-serving. I do not have to smile for anyone.

You're right, I've sensed it that way before too.

Trusting our senses as women is so difficult to do. We're often gaslighted into thinking we can't live life without a man and that there are fears and dangers and complicated things we can't deal with without them. I'm definitely not saying I want to live without a man, but being independent as much as possible is super important if we want to break generational conditioning.is more about our senses than anything else <3 Also, we never know when we are going to be stuck in a position where the men we need are not there. Like changing a tyre for instance! A Lady should always check her oil, water, and tyre pressure at the gas station! They also don't teach us how to do our taxes every year, and that's something really important, a life skill, that we should all learn. That and financial management. My gran, who was happily married until her husband passed away suddenly when she was 49, said to me, no matter what, always have your own money. you never know when that rainy day will come!

 3 days ago (edited) 

These are wise words and I truly appreciate them, would keep this in mind as I think I'm on the path of less dependency already. Thanks sis.

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