Hey everyone, i need to vent a little since we are having some pressure as a family about a big decision we need to make about our son. He is 9 years old has autism and is considered non-verbal, regardless he knows a lot of words and extremely basic sentences, he barely communicates or express his needs.
Hola a todos, necesito desahogarme un poco ya que como familia tenemos algo de presión sobre una gran decisión que debemos tomar sobre nuestro hijo. Tiene 9 años, tiene autismo y se le considera no verbal, a pesar de que sabe muchas palabras y oraciones extremadamente básicas, apenas se comunica o expresa sus necesidades.
He is on 3rd grade of Neurotypical school (which is the proper way to refer as what everyone considers regular school), he repeated the last year of kindergarden and is probably going to repeat this one (?). Anyway having to repeat the year or not, this year i had the feeling the concepts got to text comprehension oriented or too abstract for him, he could do basic math and basic logic problems, but each year of school new content is added, new subjects. So we have to decide if he shouldnt continue next year on a Special Needs school specialized on Autism...
Está en 3er grado de la escuela Neurotipica (que es la forma correcta de referirse a lo que todos consideran escuela regular), repitió el último año de Jardin de infantes y probablemente va a repetir este (?). De todos modos teniendo que repetir el año o no, este año tuve la sensación de que los conceptos llegaron a estar orientados a la comprensión de textos o demasiado abstractos para él, podía hacer matemáticas básicas y problemas de lógica básica, pero cada año escolar se agrega contenido nuevo, asignaturas nuevas . Así que tenemos que decidir si no debería continuar el próximo año en una escuela de especializada en autismo...
Its a huge huge crossroads we are facing, the team that treats our son mostly agrees he isnt fully taking advantage of his current school, but the uncertainty of this new school and if it would actually help him or hinder his progress is concerning and worrying.
Es una enorme encrucijada a la que nos enfrentamos, el equipo que trata a nuestro hijo está de acuerdo en que no se está aprovechando completamente su escuela actual, pero la incertidumbre de esta escuela nueva y si realmente lo ayudaría o dificultaría su progreso es realmente preocupante.
So we have a meeting with this new school soon and we have to make the final call, in this journey you have to take it day by day but stuff like this will have a huge impact on my son future, its not something to take lightly, puts a lot of pressure on us like parents who obviously want the best for him and his development.
Así que pronto tenemos una reunión con esta nueva escuela y tenemos que hacer la llamada final, en este viaje tienes que tomarlo día a día, pero cosas como esta tendrán un gran impacto en el futuro de mi hijo, no es algo para tomar a la ligera. , nos presiona mucho como padres que obviamente quieren lo mejor para él y su desarrollo.
Anyway, thanks for reading and letting me open about this, i really dont have that much people to talk it with, it can get lonely most of the times... take care everyone have a great day!
De todos modos, gracias por leer y dejarme abrir sobre esto, realmente no tengo tanta gente con quien hablar, puede ser muy solitario la mayoría de las veces... cuidense todos y que tengan un gran dia!
All pictures were taken by me / todas las fotografias fueron tomadas por mi
You can never know whether or not something is the right decision until you've tried it. Adjusting to change can be very difficult, especially for autistic kids. Even though it can be painful, and sometimes won't end up as well as you'd hoped, adjusting to change is a very important experience for kids.
While the quality of education your child receives at school is very important, you should strive to teach them the things that they really need to know at home. It's fine to use institutions to help educate our kids, but you shouldn't rely on them to teach your kids everything.
yeah i 100% agree, i think my wife struggles a little bit with that more than me, whats almost certain for me is the NT school is gradually leaving him behind, there less and less contents for him to fully grasp, so the new school would have less content more adapted to his needs and for him to fully grasp and be less frustrated. But again totally again we can never know and as parents we just have to try to do our best with this decisions and work at home and do our parts.
Thank you very much for your insights and taking the time to read i really really appreciate it!