Hey there!
A powerful post!
once you take away that survivor badge, who are you? It leaves you in a conundrum, which is why many people are adamant not to let go.
Someone once asked me "what is my story" in an attempt to see what connection they could make, or just wanting to apply a label to be able to "relate" to me.
I responded that I have overcome so much in my life, but I've never regarded myself as a victim or a survivor, and I ensure that my present actions are not influenced by anything negative that I have lived, because I refuse to hold onto any such bad experiences to make them my identity.
Why the heck should I make something bad that happen to me define me?
And maybe, instead of drawing yourself in the things you've lost or that were taken from you, you reimagine yourself in all the things, and experience and knowledge you've gained.
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I like your views on life.
Yes <3 So agree with that. A lot of people like to play it like they don't have a choice. But I don't see why you'd ever cast yourself in that role.
Also a good way to manipulate, once you wheedle out one's traumas and insecurities. They're putty in your hands, or might be. Which is why you want to be careful who you share any sorrow or fear with.
Thank you! I'm glad you found yourself in this post.