Oh my! This might be the most beautiful thing of yours I have ever read!!!
When my mom became a grandma, she sewed quilts for the kids, held them, played with them loved them, and now does the same with great-grandchildren. Despite losing her own mother, she knew instinctively how to be a loving mother herself.
This is my own mother's story as well, a mother who died in my mother's infancy. What part of human nature turns tragedy into a loving nature? Not always, and not for everyone, but I am so happy for you that it went this way for you and your family.
Thank you, @owasco!
Your own mom as an infant also lost her mother - life events of this magnitude must affect character development as much as birth order does (isn't every middle child a negotiator who says everything is unfair?). As a #4 of 5, I didn't suffer that particular dynamic, but we all have a family dynamic of one sort or another. You, widowed, your only son incapacitated at a young age, and - well, the list is long, isn't it?? Yet you remain a bright, strong, nurturing soul, while others might shut down or take to drinking.
May the transport and the move go well.