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Topic Of Discussion - "Parenting in Nigeria"
Hey guys, did you all see the chrisland kids video that went viral? While many might put all the blame on the school. However, I think its as a result of bad parenting.
"Charity begins at home" - This statement I have found to be very true.
Let's take this weekend to discuss about parenting in Nigeria.
What do you think is the right approach?
How do you instill manners to kids?
Do you stop your children from having early access to social media?
Using yourself as a case study, what lessons did you learn from how your parents raised you?
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I knew this would be the topic for today. 😅
Here's my own opinion about the matter.
First of, parenting, like every other thing in this life, is complicated. There's no one that can come out to say this is the right way or this a wrong way of parenting. But that is not to say there are no good or bad forms of parenting - some parents are horrible at their job while some aren't.
Since we're all different people with different personalities, we also need to be subjected under different styles of parenting. What I feel is that, parents should be observant enough to know what type of style they should employ when dealing with each child.
And about social media... With the way the world is moving, it's very hard to protect children from the ills of social media because some of those things are slowly finding their ways into mainstream media. I think the best way to tackle this is just establish a solid communication ground with your child and help them filter out the good from the daily information they're constantly being bombarded with.
Communication!! Communication!! Our society needs more parents that are friends with their kids not people seeking ways to raise the perfect child.
I do not buy into the idea of a parent being friends with their kids. You're meant to raise the child not to be their friends. That doesn't mean there shouldn't be room for your child to confide in you or have the freedom to express themselves with you. It just means there should be boundaries, let them know what's acceptable and what's not unlike their friend who would nudge them on no matter how bad it may be.
In the case of the story above, the parents chose to be friends rather than raise that girl from all indications. Everything that she was allowed to do under their roof shouldn't have been allowed.
Errrmmmm!! Let me explain it like this. The problem why many children are like that 10yrs old girl, is because too many parents think the only way to bring up a child is to be very strict. The consequence then is that the child often revolts by doing the very things the parents don't approve of. For instance,as a strict parent, shout at a child not to turn on the T. V, then go out, I believe you can guess what will happen. However, if the child believes that what you've advised is born out of Love, even if an angel comes to tell them otherwise, they'll never do otherwise. In sum, there are more than one way of teaching a child how something is to be done, one way is to through friendship. Have you not observed that in our typical Nigerian homes "Daddy is coming" is an announcement that everyone should behave, in other words, they should be appear in a way pleasing to their father but when he goes out they become their real selves. In fact, this is one primary reason why that girl's parents didn't know her. The other reason is that they were almost never around; they thought that just paying expensive school fees and giving her all she wants was what parenting was about.
It is really hard to protect children from social media bullsh*** the best way is to make them do away with it till they Can make decisions
What I'm saying is that, it isn't entirely possible.
Whether you like it or not, they'll get exposed to it. So it's best you guide them in making the correct decisions.
I understood your view.
There is no way they won't get exposed to social media
One day dey will
But we can as well protect then from early stage .
Early stage in the sense that, they don't have full understanding about social media demerits.
Then we enlighten them and expose them to it
I don't know if u understand my view as well
I think the best thing to do about the social media of a thing is to direct them as much as possible. They will possibly still make mistakes; but when they do, mildly correct them. We cannot entire protect our children from making some mistakes in life. And the early they make them and get and get corrected, the better for them.
Fact
Thanks bro
Exactly
No matter the hand you use to hold a child
Who go spoil for spoil
In my opinion just teach your child right from wrong
Good from bad
And as much as you can teach them the way of the Lord
That way when they are not under your care or are away from your eye reach
They can on their own make good choices and know for themselves what is good and what is not.
As parents your work should be helping your child know how to make right decisions because you won't always be able to make decisions for them or be there to caution them but if you can teach them in their formative years how to make good decisions
They would run with it even when you are not there.
Yea after teaching them good and pray for them also, make God dey direct them
Sometimes i feel my parents prayers keeps me going
And it truly does
No doubt
Yea true
Even tho you stop them from social media, bad things full everywhere TV, school and so on
You hit the nail on the head...because Eh even the most strict parent still have disobedient children..
Exactly.
I know quite a number of people who came from strict homes but ended up different than their parents wanted.
Everything just get as e be jare. 😅😂
It's not just by being strict ooo! Most times Nigerian parents lack friendliness; they become too strict. And at the end, they don't even know their children.
I tell you oo
It not by being strict at all
I think the strict parents raise the worst kind. Usually, those children had no room to express themselves so the smallest chance they get, they do it to the extreme and you can't really blame them.
In addition, the schools should be strict in their efforts to control the excesses of their pupils to complement the parent's efforts. The parents also should know the limit of freedom to be given to each child in order to avoid abuse. Close monitoring is her important.
Thank you for the lovely insight @monioluwa
True, the school's input is also important, but the primary task still rests on the parents' shoulders.
Society as a whole also has a role to play.
I agree with you on this. The school should have a clear boundary of the do's and don't's and strictly stick to that while parents should be intentional in their parenting journey
Yes. The schools are showing too much laxity.
Thank you.
Schools these days are not allowed to be strict because of "gentle parenting". The parents these days would raise hell on any teacher that tries to correct their child, I've seen it happen severally. Yes, some teachers go to the extreme but those who genuinely want to correct that child, aren't allowed to do so.
What's more important is the community should priorities sex education. No kid is too young to be lectured about it.
It is important!!!!...
These kids of this days already know more than you think they should,
Alex ed will allow them know where is obtainable ooo
But it won't still stop them from experimenting....
Now how do you teach them that there is a certain age to get to before experimenting?
That’s where teaching them to make good decisions comes in
As a young girl,
I had roommates and I knew people who where into these things
They would gist and laugh about it.
It wasn’t hard for me to easily give up my virtue if I wanted to
But I know for myself what was right
What my Bible said to me
And what my mother wouldn’t be happy with.
I choose not to, I made the decision for myself by myself.
All this I learnt from the trust my mother had in me that she had groomed me well enough to know what was right from wrong.
Abi o.
It's such a sacred topic that everyone is scared to talk about these days.
I concur to this..
The important thing to do is communication , know your child or children that way they become open to you and get better relationship with you
Exactly... Be like a close friend to your child than making your child fear you.
That fear does not really work instead it creates barrier between parent and children.
Ore mi, collect 2 bottles of trophy from Iya Sikira. You have spoken undeniable truth ❤
Thank you very much, but I don't do beer. Sorry. 😅😂
Then how did you know I was talking of beer, if you don't do it? 😂😝
Very interesting perspective to the Chrisland crisis; "bad parenting". Let me begin by saying "maybe, bad parenting was responsible". I use the word "maybe" because I can site proofs of orphaned kids who are doing exceptionally well both morally,spiritually and academically. Permit me to use myself as an instance here. I lost my father when I turned 9yrs,left my father's house and started catering for myself when I turned 11yrs. Yet,I look back and I know I'm a fine gentleman today; no adult in my life can claim responsibility for who I am today (maybe my father instilled something in me before his demise; I don't know). However let me point out very quickly that I grew up in a time when there was just Nokia 3310 and the other blue and green light phones. I point this out because I prefer to say that, the media is largely responsible for shaping the ethics of many young Nigerians today; you'd be surprised at what 5yrs olds and 6yrs olds know today.
I prefer to think that the media exposes our children much too early to harmful information and as you may have observed,the natural tendency for kids is to practice what they see. For instance, after watching Jet Li, I just wanted to learn martial arts so that I could "fly" like Jet Li.This was despite the fact that we watched the movie in company of family ooo!! We had elders who foresaw that a scene in a movie would be too sensitive for us and so fast-forward that scene; an adult was always holding the remote control.
Today, I go to homes where 5yrs olds own an iPad!! Habaa!! I'm like, that's about 4 times my life savings in the hands of a kid. Who monitors the information that the kids receive? No one but the media. See? In case you wonder how that 10yrs old turned out to be so "sexually informed" please check all the platforms where she had being trending with almost a thousand followers.
Remember, a parent could be so good and gifted in the art of child up bringing and end up raising a "Judas". If Jesus with all the skills ended up with a "Judas" on his team of most trusted friends, it should tell us something "society influences who we choose to become". She chose her path based on feedback loop from the media over time. Thank you.
Man you have said the truth here. It could be bad parenting and yet it is more of the information that's exposed out there to children.
Not only you, I have seen kids using phones that I had never thought of using while I was at their age. And truth is that as they grow they get exposed to more of these things.
The truth is that
"Na pikin way no get helper they get sense pass"
Bros! Wisdom cover you!! I've heard it said to me many times, "cow wey no get tail, na God dey help pursue fly
Don't leave me! Lol
I'm a girl tho and not a guy
A girl, you are, and a pretty one too who can smile for Africa. See ehn!! Na where u dey I go like to dey because u see this crytpo and NFT topic? I've heard too much about it that it sounds so familiar yet I no sabi "pin" about them. So.... My Engineer!! I greet u specially
Lol, you must be a very good hype man
Thank you dear
Nice meeting you 😘
You have a very valid point. As much as we want to blame social media for the information she received, we should also ask why she had access to that information at a young age without any restrictions.
I remember growing up when social media isn't what it is today, my parents didn't give me access to a mobile phone(without the internet) until I finish secondary school.
Times have changed and people allow early access which isn't a bad thing but if you're going to allow access then you should be able to monitor and control the things they have access to because all that goes into shaping what the child becomes regardless of what you instil in that child.
Well, I don't have kids yet but my perspective on this will be that, kids should not have early access to social media. Although the world has changed and we are really moving forward fast with technology. But back when I was young I had no access to social media at early stage, all on my head then was my books and childs game like, suwe, ten ten, I call on .. etc all these are part of what sensitive us then and our mind set didn't go rogue.. But exposing kids to social media at early stage is absurd because social media those not know the young from the grown ups
But don't you think that the reason why you had no access to social media while growing up then was because there was close to none?
The books and toys you played with, some of the older generations before you didn't get to experience that during their childhood too. That's just how life is. The human world will keep advancing.
I feel that rather than deny them access to social media, it's best to guide them in navigating it and exposing them to the benefits of social media and letting them know the ills too.
Well, you hit right
The world is advancing
just as I said earlier,the whole thing is in the hands of the child
@midemanuel
The whole thing in my opinion is not centered on the child. There are certain things I wish to do even as an adult that I cannot do not because I can't do them, but because I have reasons not to do them. These reasons are products of my upbringing and the values inculcated in me by my parents and other positive means of socialization I was exposed to. On the other hand, I have friends who can do almost anything they wish or feel like doing without thinking twice or yielding to the promptings of the conscience.
The summary of all I'm saying is pointing to the fact that parenting has a lot to do with the outcome of a child. 'Train up a child in the way he should grow and when he grows, he will not depart from it'
The grass root of all these is still centered on child upbringing
Thaz what I'm saying. It is centered on the way the child is brought up.
Yea. Na hin get the life
See it all comes down again to the world evolving.
You are right @monioluwa and I agree with you the important things is guiding them now we can't just rule out social media it is part and will continue to be part.
Exactly my bro.
You get the point.
Make God sha dey help us with these kids.
Aiswer down
For me there was close to none but my friend had phone to call each other and I didn't. My mom said no, what is it you want to talk about that can't wait till you see each other. Yes, there was no social media but some of us still had restrictions and it helped.
A child might not have access to social media but can keep bad company in school.
We should just teach them at home, sometimes what we restrict them from doing they will do outside to find out why we didn't allow them do those things
Bad thing dey everywhere now not only social media
I feel the important is getting a close relationship with the children
See before a child starts taking decision himself or herself if he or she has a best friend the best friend will be the first to know either asking directly or indirectly
So if the parent and the children are very close it will be easy to guide even when they are being influenced outside.
This is very true
Children tends to meet their friends and they give them advise.
I'm always praying God should help me to have time for my children and be their best friend
True, i have made some mistake because i wasn't close to mum
Hmmmm, it is well oo
Once you miss that basic parental upbringing, the next thing is learning whatever thing you see or hear from peer pressure.
Yes that's why we need to be bestfriends to our children mostly the female one
I didn't get that opportunity, but i want to do better
Now you know better, just try to do better for your children so they won't experience what you experience
So true,
Parents should creat friendly safe environment for their kids, to share their thoughts and troubled with.
A child who knows his or her mum would listen to without harshness or judgement won't be looking for friends advise
Take that movie Ginny and Georgia for example.. to a large extent I admired the fact that Ginny could tell her mum things, and her mum wouldn't instantly judge her, she found in her mother a confidant
Exactly!!
That way both get to share things and talk and the parent gets to guide when moving astray.
I think a very vital approach is for parents to monitor their children activities on the internet. They should be made to devote most of their times to what benefits them. They need help to take the right decision.
The work load is majorly on the parents.
Which parent will have this time to monitor kids these days? In Lagos for instance, there are so many parents who leave the house by 4am and get back by 9om when the kids are already in bed so which parent will actually do this work of parenting?
That's the major challenge. The kids they are working so hard to give better future would get the future destroyed before under their roof.
That social media is wild and will just give those kids wild exposure.
Wild exposure indeed no cap
If it's a must you want your kids to have access to the phone, at least let it be the ordinary phone for communication and browsing alone. No form of social media biko...with appropriate family google link where parents can control whatever they check on the phone wherever they are!
Another angle
Many thanks for bringing this sensitive issue up here to be discussed.
First, the kind of parenting that exists nowadays could be said to failure incorporated. Parenthood is meant to be a yardstick for producing children who will carry on family or societal norms to the next generation. But wetin we get today?
Parenting for me has a manual. The Holy Books are clear about how to bring up a child.
A Yoruba adage says:
Meaning that:
In my family, we do not have the right to buy gadgets by ourselves for our personal use. Growing up wasn't a tug of war in our era.
Using mobile phone is not a top priority for any of us (my siblings and I), it was something we started using when we got admission into.the higher institution.
In fact, we had a tv set in our rooms with free channels, after out parents have restricted or programmed it to what we have access to.
Away from the parental responsibility. I'd like to mention that school policy makers are the primary cause of some of the moral decadence we see in our children today.
The application of school laws designed in Europe where the child is an idol that should not be disciplined and bringing that to the African continent, to a people of different history, culture and tradition; that has messed up the whole process.
Now, the ball is in the court of individual parent to prune their wards to taste.
We should not forget that society is the product of the home.
Do you know some children had the same upbringing just like you but still turned out to be bad I mean baddo sef.
What I feel is important is having a close relationship with the kids see if a child wants to do something either good or bad he or she will directly or indirectly throw it his or her best friend and ask for opinion.
If parents are like best friends with the children then they would get to know how the kids think and what they are capable of that way they will be able to guide through the right way.
Kids are unpredictable while growing up,parents play a role while nature ie: where the child grows determines. The right approach is To sensitive the kids
Lol...we were actually considering this topic for hivenaija. Nice one. I go come back come answer.
They say leadership by example
Mehn!! Training a child is hard, kids scare me. You can do your best as a parent, and they will still do what they like. In this case my solution is do your best and leave the rest for God
Hahaha... I know one girl like that. She has good parents, but she baddd die! She's only 17 but she's done it all.
You see
Age 17
Precisely I don't think social media alone contributes to it.
Peer group and residential environ also contributes majorly
Lol, it is true oo
Our parents they try, but we wan taste everything
It is one thing to have good parents, it is another thing for the parents to be able to inculcate their goodness in their children.
See eh, some people know what to write in exam halls but do not know the best way to present it. If her parents are good but do not know how to instil such vitues in her nko?@samostically
One question though, are the parents good or strict? Because there is a huge difference
They are both.. IMO, they did a good job. Her elder sister is a good example of a job well done. But u see that girl 🤣🤣
😂😂 there is always that one child
So are u saying I should give birth to only one?
Lol, that's up to you. What I mean is there is always that one child that's different from the other children.
exactly, do your best and leave the rest. Person way go bad go bad. Even if na pastor pikin
Lol yes o
Omo in school i know many pastor's children that if you see them you will doubt they are levites..lol
They are already in the world
They are now child of the world
😂
The truth might be their parents are stirct at home, so when they come to university, they want to taste everything
That's another real fact
Yeah, they should allow children to be free
Well, in my opinion, this is not always the case o. Person weh suppose bad go fit change if them train am well. On the other hand, person weh suppose good go bad if them no train am well. The mind of a child according to some philosophers is more like a spotless and sparkling slate. A child in their opinion becomes what is written on it. From the foregoing, it can be said that the parents have a lot to do in what is written in the life of their child.@midemanuel
That's true some children their dad are pastors, deacon or serious church members but they still choose to go their own way, let's just put them in God's hands
I know many of them in my local church. They are just busy bringing shame to the church and their parents.
If the devil can't get to their parents, they pass through the children
Exactly....devil has a way of fighting them in every angle
It's well my dear
Our best is all we have to give las las
You are right. There are some kids that no matter the amount of parental training given to them, it doesn't stop them from acting up.
For those categories of children, it's only God's mercy and grace that can save them. Prayers remain the key for them to change
😂😂 at last, who wan spoil go spoil. You can only try your best.
I learnt a lot from my parents because I was not exposed to social media at early stage but was exposed to God's word. And that made me grew love for music.
And that music shut me off anything social media then. All we do after school activity then is church programs.
I wish parents can follow through how my parent raised me
Wow, so good you have these kind of parents, some persons weren't opportuned.
I'm sure you will make them proud 😉
Definitely.the training back then really sweetened my life style
Your lucky
I pray i be a good parent
You will
Amen o🙏
Training a child is difficult.
Honestly, early access to gadgets and all is not advisable
I suggested such as well.
We are not saying they won't get to use social media but exposing them to social media at early stage is not worth it
True, it's not easy, we just have to put them in God's hands
Happy new week and i appreciate you for mentioning my name
Parenting is what every will eventually do later in life, we will marry and give birth to children.
Training them in the way of God,we shouldn't spoil our child/children just because maybe we have one child or one gender i.e one boy out of many girls.
Always pray for your children. True, my parents prayers keeps me going.
Correct them if they are wrong, allow others to correct them to.
I have seen parents who doesn't allow another person touch or correct their children they come back quarreling the person in the front of the child.
I don't have a child yet, but when i do my child will start using phone at the age of 18.
Technology has made it easy to block websites, because it is not only social media there are websites that a child shouldn't access at an early age.
I was raised by a no nonsense parents, my parents will correct me till now because am still living under them although now they accord some respect because am grown but my mum will always say "you re still under my roof"
They raised me to be honest no matter the situation and be prayerful too, I can't even try to miss church if am at home.
I took my time to read the comment so far because this topic eh hits right home.now I understand when they say there are things you would feel and understand better when you have your own child.
My mum always says it too especially when I give her small trouble 😏.ps was a good girl sha.
Anyways back to the matter, I see a lot of people’s comment about early gadget access is not good, but do you think late gadget access is best either?
One thing we should understand that your child is a child whether a toddler, baby or teenager even adults self we are all someones child.
So trying to restrict them from somethings as a child doesnt mean they will not abuse that thing when they become adults...
Most of that restriction is the major cause of all the scandal las las.
It's just sad that in this generation we have too many irresponsible adult raising kids and that the major issue...
And what I think can curb all these between parent and children is proper communication
My point exactly!
I can remember I had access to social media even before I got my first phone. How? My friends.
It's not enough to deprive them of gadgets because we didn't grow up using them or for fear of misuse. It's the parents' job as an adult to ensure that such privilege isn't abused.
During my time as teenager, the duty of raising a child is not for the parents alone. In those days, if I misbehave away from home, an elder in the vicinity can just discipline me. If I ran home to report, my mum would interrogate me to know the truth. She may end up adding to my punishment if she found me wanting.
However, in this generation of raising children, parents are too protective of their wards and it's having a negative impact.
As a parent, find a way to strike a balance between defending your child and disciplining the child when he/she misbehaves.
Secondly, if at all your children would use phones and other gadgets for learning before University, ensure that you monitor their activities. You can always check to find out the kind of site they visit on the computer. Give them early sex education to avoid learning it from outside in an awkward manner.
They deserve close monitoring and every parent should be intentional about that.
The school also need to do better. On the part of Chrisland, they failed in proper monitoring of pupils under their custody. Schools should device mechanisms to keep their pupils in continuous check and nip any ugly situation on the board.
I am a newbie and I'll love to be mentioned in subsequent engagements.
This is also true. Raising a child isn't the parents' duty alone. Society also has a part to play, but it appears today's society doesn't really care about that. It's sad.
Parents reject intervention of society in raising their children. It's now "me and my child" way of life.
There is no handbook or manual for raising a child. my parents were always in my business, asking questions, questioning my Friend, inviting them over, and becoming friends with their parents. One thing that kept me in check was the communication and their presence. Seems like parents now are all about the money and a soft lifestyle I..no body has time to be present again.
It's just sad we have irresponsible adults raising kids these days.
I wonder if they still tell children to close their eyes if they see a kissing scene 🙄
it's just sad what this world is turning to. Like @readthisplease said we will do our best and leave the rest😒😒
What an interesting topic! I am not a parent though, but I have experienced parenting. As a matter of fact, I was trained by a topical Nigerian mother; my fellow Nigerians will understand better😏 Using myself as a case study, I cannot really say that I will give my children unborn the kind of parental training I got. Flogging for many Nigerian parent is one of the most important thing when it comes to child upbringing; and that's the problem. Many of them end up establishing a poor relationship with their children. A good parental relationship should be friendly, and that's what parents should aim for. A friendly and healthy relationship
Truly, charity begins at home. The young dresses provocatively at home as a against the school where they only wear uniforms, definitely the parents are aware of this act. These days one cannot predict these children of the 21st century. They always seem to have a way of doing things, they are tech inclined, social media inclined and are even knowledgeable in things beyond their ages.
But I think these can be curtailed, how can a 10year old be having an iPhone 11,for what exactly. Discipline is instilled in children from their early years by their parents and it goes a long way.
Back then, everybody was your parent, mum, dad, aunties, uncles even neighbors but now everybody dey mind their business. They see you correcting a child, they tag it as something else.
Lol why everyone is minding their business is to avoid trouble oo
Some children if you touch them their mum will come and fight you back, the worst is In the presence if the child
What impression are you giving the child
Honestly, I do not think there is one exact right approach and even if there is, I do not think I am one to decide cos I am not yet a parent. There are records of different people coming out of different parenting styles and they turned out well or otherwise.
Concerning the access to media. I still do not think its an entirely bad idea. Sooner or later, they'd find out if we (the parents) do not show them. But in this girl's case, I see she had access and obviously there were no one around to caution or regulate how she used them. Even me sef I no get tiktok account, even my twitter is almost not cool. I see some of those videos she posted and I am quite shocked at one. She did Bussit challenge. MAke I stop here, abeg.🤣
I would not deny my children entire access to social media, cos it has its advantage too. But I believe the parents can still make sure they know almost what their children do with not only with social medis but their phones as well.
Low key, I was a rascal o. From what I have learned from my parents, even though I was a stubborn child I still had morals. And I abhor immorality till now sef. But really if not for Jesus, maybe I'd have been MC Oluomo right hand man.😂
Honestly, I still do thank God for my parents o, they were really almost opposite in action so I was bale to learn from two sides and chose the one I wanted - the better one I presume.
Make I drop pen here..
Oshey!! Gbogbo rascality!
I hail o. 🙌🙌
😎😎😎
Well, that was then o😆
First of all, a very big round of applause to kids that don't give their parents head or heart ache. May God almighty handsomely reward you.
Una good evening from my side.
Thanks @samostically for making this topic an official banter topic.
Good parenting or bad parenting: what are the rules?
Well, there's no book to guide a father or mother on how to train his or her child but common sense should be enough to tell what's making or marring a child. I mean, a child asks for this thing, you don't question him/her but you just provide even when you should add precautions to the provisions. Who does that?
Allow me tell a story; a man and his kid went to the dentist to get the kid's teeth braced cuz he was promised so when ever he makes his exam papers. Dad and son went to the hospital and the dentist after asking questions if the boy had tooth issues, discovered that he(the boy) only wanted the braces on because his favorite artist had braces too. Wow.
The dentist then went ahead to ask the dad why he was giving his kid teeth braces when he had no teeth issues and shockingly again, the boy's father said and I quote, "he said he wanted one, so he'll get one". Like seriously? Is this how you train a child?
Well long story short, the dentist advised father and son and they didn't get the boy's teeth braced plus, the father learned to train his kid better.
I'm not saying parents shouldn't show unconditional love to their offsprings but it should be as equal as the strictness that is necessary.
You spare the rod and spoil the child y'all, please.
As for the case of social media? The more kids are exposed to, the more they'll absorb into their growing mentality. From the video of the chrisland kids, they have been exposed to adult contents too much and no lies, they must have practiced it some time before this recent outbreak.
My parents didn't promise me internet access (phone or internet connection) till I was in my final year in secondary school. And even when I got a phone, I was very much under supervision 😂.
What we need these days are disciplinarians as parents and open minded kids. Love is always there as long as there are no infringement of the children's Human Rights.
I rest my case.