Errrmmmm!! Let me explain it like this. The problem why many children are like that 10yrs old girl, is because too many parents think the only way to bring up a child is to be very strict. The consequence then is that the child often revolts by doing the very things the parents don't approve of. For instance,as a strict parent, shout at a child not to turn on the T. V, then go out, I believe you can guess what will happen. However, if the child believes that what you've advised is born out of Love, even if an angel comes to tell them otherwise, they'll never do otherwise. In sum, there are more than one way of teaching a child how something is to be done, one way is to through friendship. Have you not observed that in our typical Nigerian homes "Daddy is coming" is an announcement that everyone should behave, in other words, they should be appear in a way pleasing to their father but when he goes out they become their real selves. In fact, this is one primary reason why that girl's parents didn't know her. The other reason is that they were almost never around; they thought that just paying expensive school fees and giving her all she wants was what parenting was about.