Sometimes some people mistake red flag for challenges a relationship face.
Imagine a guy who has plans for the future and budget the way he spends his money. To some ladies, he is stingy and doesn't want to spend on them which they consider a red flag mean while it might be a current challenge. If people can't determine the different between the two, it would cause a big problem
The inability to differentiate between red flag and challenges is a red flag on it's own. Plus any lady that has the mentality that a relationship should be about the other party spending on her really requires a psychiatrist because that's a major red flag which cannot be corrected.
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