This reminds me of how I used to believe that I had a bad memory and so there was nothing for me to do about it. It's toxic bullshit that lived with me for far too long! When I realized, in an epiphany, what that opinion about my memory really was, I decided to become a memory champion. The key issue here I think is to get people to develop good judgement, something they don't/ can't teach in school. You have to learn this on your own, and not everyone is drawn to intelligence, or at least, that's another toxic flow that is being spread but some people manage to do well with very little, or so you are supposed to believe that. Remember it is possible to walk away from toxic mental sludge, you can walk away from me. You are free, aren't you?