#Gratefulvibes - Attitude of Gratitude - Do Not be Judgemental

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Good afternoon all lets today share another motivational and positive attitude story and it is for Attitude of Gratitude Community challenge in #gratefulvibes by wonderful person @paradise-found or can say papa bear. I am so impressed by this challenge and specially @paradise-found because he is an inspiring person and give always positive vibes and always available for us so let we start our story.

Oftentimes, we get to see a lot of people and even ourselves at some point where we tend to judge people so easily.

While we may say it is just human nature, this, however, isn't right. True enough we instantly do this after seeing such things from one side. Sometimes, we judge from the looks and even, we do not give the other person a chance to be listened or understood.

Tendencies are, we don't want that judgment to change which is why we are unwelcoming to hear the other side.

Because of that, I have been encouraged to share with you a wonderful motivational story. This is an inspiring one as anyone can relate to it with our personal lives.

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Some time ago, there was once a teacher whose name was Geetha and a seven years old student with the name Surya.

Geeth to Surya - Tell me Surya, if I give you 2 chocolates and give you another 2 chocolates, how many chocolates you now have?

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Surya to Geetha - Teacher, I surely now have 5 Chocolates

Surprised as why Surya said five when it should be 4 because 2 plus 2 is four, she instead just used banana as an example because she knows Surya likes bananas!

Geetha to Surya -Surya if I give you 2 bananas and again give you another 2 bananas then how many bananas do you now have?

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Surya to Geetha - Teacher, I now have 4 bananas

Right after hearing this answer, Geetha was so happy that Surya was able to provide the right answer and her strategy worked! Geetha is glad that he understood her Mathematics teachings.

Now Geetha asked him again, this time, she used chocolate as an example.

Geetha to Surya - Now tell me Surya, if I give you 2 chocolates and then another 2 chocolates, then how many chocolates do you have then Surya again replied, that teacher 5 chocolates!

Geetha, being annoyed now because he answered five again. She couldn't help but asked Surya how is it possible that 2 & 2 bananas are equal to 4 and 2 & 2 chocolates are equal to 5?

Surya then explains and told Geetha "teacher, I have already one chocolate in my pocket."

Who is wrong now?

  • Is Geetha wrong? NO, because she is right that 2+2=4
  • Did Surya give the wrong answer? NO, because 2+2=4 and 1 more chocolate he already owns so 2+2+1=5

Moral Lesson

No one is wrong in this situation.

However, conflicts such as this happen due to technical and practical mind set gap.

Geetha was technically right which means to see the obvious, the normal thing we think is right.

On the other hand, Surya was practically right, as he sees beyond the obvious and also sees what others may think invisible. He was practically right about the five chocolates as he has one hidden chocolate in his pocket.

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I shared this story because, in our lives, there are conflicts which bore from the gap between the technical and practical correctness.

Let's say for example, between you and your spouse. If you feel that your spouse is not loving you, technically, you are right about feeling that she has fallen out of love, she's not doing things she does before and etc. But being practical means seeing the hidden chocolate, see the hidden reason why he or she is not loving you like before? Could it be that you had misunderstood, you might still need reconciliation first.

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Another example, let's say your child may not listen to you and you are technically right because he or she is not listening. But are you practically right? Practically right means try to see that hidden chocolate, see beyond the obvious, think and ask yourself why your child not behaving well or not listening to you.

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The next time you see someone not fitting into your definition of what is technically right, please don't be judgemental. Go beyond the obvious, go beyond what is visible and try to look that hidden chocolate. It will help you a lot to understand that person and resolve that conflict situation that you are in.

Thank you for reading, I appreciate your time. I hope you have learned a lesson from the story.

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beautiful message birju!!
Thanks for being a friend:)
I'm grateful to have you:)

Stay awesome!!

so true , dont judge because you may not want to be un the same situation , nice message dear 😊

I'll find the sweetest chocolate @birjudanak what a gratefulvibes, loved it and Happy Valentine❤

Buena tu publicacion

we only let it to be human "nature" if we allow it. being judgmental and critical in a negative way will never get you anywhere good.

Thank you for this wonderful message.

The bonds you have based on judging others are superficial and are not likely to contain true substance. That's one beautiful reminder, Birju!

thank you for this timely reminder to myself @birjudanak it is still a struggle for me but I praise & thank God that I just remain silent esp. when I don't have something good to say about something or someone. :-) no talk no mistake hhehehe :-D God bless you my friend :-)

i agree with you dear....

xoxo