Feeling Sad? Read This.
7 years ago in #freewrite by julimattos (47)
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Thank you for this post and I also thank @maverickinvictus for sending me a link to this post as he knows I needed it.
It has been difficult for me to be real especially in public because as you said:
Just the other day, one of the big bosses in our office asked me: "Why are you silent?" as if there was something wrong with it. I responded and told him I have always been silent.
Unfortunately, I'm expected to always engage and be sociable at work. And that's really difficult when I had to pretend. I did that and my depression got worse.
So right now, I like being alone because that's when I can be myself and feel what I have to feel, without consequences.
Thanks for this beautiful and relatable post.
I relate a lot to your comment. I don't talk much to people I don't know or don't feel comfortable with. I've always struggled to feel part of groups in school, as I just enjoy being quiet and by my own. It's not because we don't have anything to say, but because we just like having space and talking when we want to (at least in my case).
I started being more myself after graduating from college, though. Even at the work office, I would do my own thing without caring much about what other people think. If people can't respect who you are, that's their problem, not yours. The ones that respect your personality, are the people that truly matters. I've been working remotely for 3 years and it helps a lot with it.
Liking being alone is a good thing. It make us more reflective and conscious :) Thank you for sharing your story!
I find that I am just usually with 1-3 people who truly get me and know my personality. Sure I am sociable at times but often I just want to go home and read silently.
Oh how I want to just work from home!
Thank you for sharing your story too! I also want to work remotely like you and I believe that would take out a lot of stress we get in an office setting.
I am glad that you found the post helpful and I relate to you as I also work in Employee relations and you are just expected to be happy and fully motivated all the time when there are a lot of times you feel so bad and don't want to go out.
Being unhappy is seen to be wrong as if we want to be depressed and unhappy :(
Just know wanderlass we are always here ready just be there
Thank you for sharing this to me! They just wouldn't understand. There's a model employee that they would like everyone to become. They force all those non-work activities for the sake of "engagement" without bothering to check on people at an individual level.
Yeah one of my former boss thought that if you give a person enough money and incentives that they basically have the right to make them slaves and control their lives even what they put in their social media and who their friends are.
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I'd like to mention @happycrazycon and her post "A Tutor's Tale Part 5: Should Social Emotional Education Be Taught?". The post starts with a question a student made: "Teacher, why do we have physical education but there isn't emotional education?". It's a very complete and educational text she wrote in response to that question. What I liked the most is the story behind the student's struggles at school and how he sought help and advice, being honest about his feelings.
https://steemit.com/education/@happycrazycon/a-tutor-s-tale-part-5-should-social-emotional-education-be-taught
I've done it so many times, Been the rock that the foundation of strength been built and is expected to be strong and happy and positive even when things get tough.
So many people looking up to me that I cannot appear weak or feel troubled,
SO i hid behind masks and always said I am okay even when I am not.
Life gets me down and sometimes I just hide behind a book or sleep.
Yet indeed admiting that you are not okay is one of the best things that you can for yourself. Overcoming bad days a part of the journey.
I love this piece Juli and thank you for sharing it.
Yes, I totally understand that. I think it's something we do as a response to that pressure of being happy and "strong" all the time. But, in my point of view, being strong is also being able to admit when things are tough and growing up from it.
As long as you're truthful to yourself and give yourself space and time to heal, that's what matters. :) Thank you for your feedback Mr.! hehe or just Mave :)
A lovely, honest and warming post. Will be sure to bookmark this for the rainy days :)
Thank you! I hope it can bright your rainy days :)) xx
Too many good points:
There's too much stress going on with life, if we will always be thinking about them then it will just drag the positive energy that the universe is throwing at us. Be a beacon of hope and joy! Oh I suddenly recall @hundredlbsbeauty on this post.
Some people would say that an honest and concern friend is much better than speaking to a professional who may be distant at times. There's a lot of things that we cannot do alone and that is humans are social beings.
Ehmergerd! Too many English words already I am on quota now. Byee!
That's true. There're always two ways of seeing things - the positive and the negative. If we focus on the positive side, everything will be easier and most pleasant. Good actions and thoughts attract good things.
Seeking help on other people is very important. Friends and family can help a lot - I always feel better after calling and talking to people I like and trust. In some cases, though, a professional might be helpful if the person doesn't have anyone to talk to or anyone that he/she feel comfortable enough to talk to. Thank you for your feedback!! :))
Without one how could we know the other. I am an outgoing extrovert with a mask as below the surface I am a super anxious and previously a depressed person. While I have the depression under control the anxiety is still a huge issue and impedes on my daily life.
I really liked the song and resonated with it. Somedays it is so hard to leave the house. Thanks for your post, it made me smile. Happy hump day to your too, although it is now throwback Thursday lol
This is so true and so important! If we were never sad, we'd never know what happiness is. The most important is to be truthful to you and not to put pressure on yourself for something you can't control.
When you accept your anxiety and embrace who you are, everything goes smoothly. :) I have social anxiety but it goes on and off. I used to hide it a lot but I decided to accept it and to not judge myself for it.
Thank you for sharing/commenting :) I'm really glad my post made you smile!! Well, happy Friday/Saturday/weekend :)
Fearless and honest Self-reflection are key during such sad times. You name so many important aspects.
Thanks
Self-reflection is so much needed. Thank you! :)
The pleasure is mine. Thanks
Good article, good song.
It is interesting how society acts.
We are expected to be happy and cheerful. If we're sad, then a kind word from a friend is meant to magically fix it... or else we're supposed to pull ourselves up with our bootstraps. On the other hand, if we're doing too well, then society is jealous and wants to bring us down to their level again... Anything outside their norm is uncomfortable for them.
That societal attitude doesn't help any of us! It doesn't address our needs or anything about who we are. Society isn't our friend - our closest friends are those friends - the ones who really do accept us - as HUMAN! :-)
Thanks for the thoughtful article!
That's true! Society is very complex and a bit confusing too. If we're always going to be criticized by being too sad or too happy, we might as well just be ourselves and don't feel ashamed about it. Close friends and family are the most important, as well as the relationship with ourselves. The others will always judge, but it's up to us to ignore it and focus on what matters. :)
Thank you for commenting!! :)
This is a topic that more people need to write about!
being sad or depressed is part of life and no one is happy all the time. It's OKAY to be sad!!!
I don't know anyone that is happy all the time and if I met someone that thought they were I would think they were not tellling the truth.
Great post!!
Yes, it is. It's easy to ignore and pretend everything is ok, when it's actually not. What's hard is to admit that times are tough and to face the problems, learning from them.
Thank you so much for your comment!! :)))
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I live in the fact that tomorrow is going to be better. In which direction? I see glimpses of beautiful things each day but happiness from what I feel is short lived. It is a cycle. I understand that we each have our own burden but we also cope differently. I agree that we should strengthen our mental health by being with people who influences positively. Surround yourself with people who are genuine and brings you happiness. It is in acceptance that nothing is perfect will we be able to appreciate more. Also, have an attitude of gratitude.