Sabi nang ibang tao na “hindi maintindihan ung babae”. Ano sa tingin nyo? May kaibigan ako na lalake humihingi sya nang payo. Paki basahin nyo eto at magbigay kayo nang commento.
Some people say that women cannot be understood. What do you think? Please a dear friend is looking for some help in form of advice please read and leave your comments.
Sinulatan ako nang kaibigan ko, Ito ung kanyang sinabi:
“ Nalulungkut ako dahil hindi na masaya asawa ko sakin, nararamdaman ko na kahit ano ginawa ko, hindi ko sya mapapaligaya, kamakailan lamang, ung aking asawa naging bastos sa akin, na aking pinalipas na mahabang panahon, pero ngayon parang hindi ko na matiis. Nasasaktan ako na lalaking katulad ko kelangan magmakaawa para sa konting pagmamahalan papayag sya pero pagkatapos itutulak nya ako, at sasabihin nya sakin “ tapos ka na ba”, magsalita sya nang nakakasakit sakin, kumikirot ang puso ko. Tatawagan nya na matalik na kaibigan nya at makasama sila ssa trabaho para magkuwento sila.
A dear friend of mine wrote to me today and here is what he said:
“I feel very sad that my wife is no longer happy with me,and it feels like no matter what I do i can never make her happy. Lately my wife has been very rude to me and I’ve tolerated this for very long but now i can no longer tolerate it. It pains me so much that a man like me has to beg his wife for some love and after she finally agrees, she makes certain comments that breaks my heart. She later on picks up her phone and call her best friend also her colleague to ask what she is doing at the moment.
credit to "whisper"
Iniiwasan nya nako, ginangabi nang uwie kase magakasam sila nang bestfriend nya apat na buwan ito nagyayari. Nagpapabayaan nya na ako, hindi ko alam kung alam nya ung ginangawa nya. Maraming beses ko na sinubukan na magusap sakanya, pero parang nasasalita ako sa sariliko. Hindi sya sumasagot sakin, sasabihin nya lang sakin “ano ba gusto mo gagawin ko?’ tapos tawagin nya best friend nya, pagkatapos sila magkuwentuhan, iinumin nya ung sleeping pills nya ‘sleepasil’ tulog na sya after 20mins.
She keeps avoiding me, keeping late nights and hanging out with her best friend, for the last 4 months. I've been totally neglected but she doesn't even see this. I've tried so many times to talk to her, but every time I talk to her I feel like I'm talking to myself. She doesn't respond she just asks, "so what do you want me to do" not even trying to reason with me, she just gets on the phone again and makes a joke about it (whatever transpired) to her best friend, after her conversation over the phone she takes a sleepasil and I only see my wife awake for 20 mins after she takes the sleepasil.
Ung nakaran nalingo, sabi nya sakin meron siilang company outing out-of-town. Akala ko nakikipagtagpo sa ibang lalake, naghahanap sya nang dahilan lang. Sinabi ko sa kanya nya na gusto ko magkita cellphone nya, tapos tumakbo sya sa banyo, sinirado nya ang pinto, kumatok ako pero hindi nya binuksan ung pinto binuksan nya ung tubig sa banyo, paglabas nya sa banyo kinuha ko ung cellphone nya tapos tsinek ko ung mga messages at mga tawag, sa messages nakita ko lang message nang mama nya at message galling sa network provider, tapos ang tinatawagan nya is nung bestfriend nya.
Recently she told me she was going on a company trip and i thought she was seeing someone else, and was looking for an excuse to go with person she was seeing. I told wife that i would like to go through her phone, she immediately went to the bathroom and locked herself in, i knocked for her to open the door but she didnt, i just heard water running. When she gave me her phone i only saw messages from her network provider and her mum . So i checked the call logs and saw called only to her best friend.
Gustong gusto ko kumuha password nang asawa ko, kinuha ko tapos kahapon. Inantay ko sya matulog,pagkatapos nya inumin ung sleepasil, kinuha ko ung cellphone nya sa ilalim nang unan nya, binuksan ko ung phone nya, na gulat ako sa nakita ko sa cellphone nya kase hindi ko nasahan. Asawa ko at bestfriend nya nagbook nang hotel. Tapos nakita ko ung ibang message nila na dadqalin nya ung vibrator na binili nya sa olx, Binuksan ko ung suitcase nya at may nakita ako dalawang vibrator isang malake ant isang maliit. Nalaman ko na ito ung ginagawa kaya ganyan sya magreact sakin. Umiyak ako sa pagisip ung mga dinadaanan ko for months now. Hindi ako makatulog buong gabi.
I really wanted to get the password of her phone, and I did. I waited the night before she left for the so called company trip she said was going to attend, I waited for her to take her regular sleepasil, and while she was sleeping, I pulled out her phone from under the pillow and got the surpise of my life. Something I wouldn't have expected. My wife and her best friend planned to be together in a hotel. And I saw a message that she would be bringing the new vibrator that she purchased on Olx, I opened her suitcase and dug till I found a big vibrator, and a small vibrator. It dawned on me that this has been going on for months now and that's why she has been behaving this way. I shed tears just thinking about all she put me through I couldn't sleep the whole night.
Pagkaginsing nya sa umaga, tinanung ko sakanya bakit ginangawa nya ito, hindi sya sumagot.
Andito ako ngayon sa bahay nang mgamagulang ko, kasse naghahanap ako sinong pwede kausapin tunkol sa nangyayri samen. Mahal ko asawa ko pero ayaw na ayaw ko sa mga ginagawa nya. Kasal kame sa simbahan at alam nya na pwede ko mag hiwalay sakanya dahil sa ginagawa nya.
I spoke to her about this calmly the morning but she brushed me off. I'm here today at my parents house because I'm looking for someone who can understand women or relate to this situation. I love my wife but I dislike what she is doing. We got married at the church and I'm supposed to annul this marriage for this thing that she is doing.
Dalawang taon na kame kasal, kelangan ko nang advice para hindi kame maghiwalay kase hindi ko alam gagawin ko ngayon. Salamat sa pagbabasa pakiiwan nang komento
We've been married for two years. I would really appreciate some advice on the correct steps to approach this! I really don't want to end up being separated. Thanks for your time.
great...your post deserve upvote and resteem...
It pains me to read your story, man. I'm sorry that you are facing this.
I think there's a reason why you have so many upvotes and no one dares to try to give you advice on what you should or shouldn't do.
I'm sure there are some of us who can relate to this type of problem, but these types of matters have no absolute resolution or "proper" way to handle them. One reason for this is the fact that every such situation always has its own unique set of circumstances. An outsider to your situation can never see it in proper context because they can't live your shared experiences, we can only infer details based on how much you divulge.
Having said that, my one piece of advice to you, as a man speaking to another man, is to never allow yourself to be a doormat -- be a man. And, if you haven't been all the man that you're capable of being up until this point in the relationship, now is the time to free it and be it.
thanks a lot your comment was very solid and now you make me think you are the real james brown. thanks for the effort, followed you.
I'm not going to pretend to be the real James Brown, but I appreciate the compliment and I aspire to be a lot of what he was as a man.
I hope that everything works out for you the way that you want it to.
whatever happens when LOVE is finished IT IS FINISHED. Suck it up and move on.
@indepthstory
you're right about that! im hoping the Love isnt finished yet, i really appreciate youre comment.
Its really sad.
But well some things are NOT in your control. If she is a LESBIAN, she should have told it to you before your marriage. And I guess she could not tell it due to family issues (I guess so).
I would like to advice you that, TALK TO HER FAMILY. TELL THERE EVERYTHING YOU DISCOVERED. I hope you managed to take some pictures of your discovery. If they don't know it, they needs some proof to believe it.
Now, coming to the part where you don't want to lose her. This phase is going to be painful for you. Stay Strong. But what I am going to tell you may hurt you a lot. See, love cannot be one sided. And everyone has their own choices.
If you really love her, then allow her to make her own choice, than just living together without any hope of future.
Instead you two can become friends if you support her in her bad time. Its surely some disgusting phase of her life now too.
Anyways, all the best. Have courage and face this :)
Thank You. I will be waiting to hear more updates from your side. :)
[Btw, what I said is completely my own personal advice, you are free to choose your own, and you may not like mine also.]
Cheers.