I know didic already said it, but I'll chime in: feminists definitely are having that conversation. That's an important part of feminism for me—everyone should have access to and be allowed to express all of their emotions, including the ones that patriarchy tell us are not " acceptable" for men to have or express. And all people are potentially subject to violence, including men, and the fact that there aren't shelters that allow male survivors safety is shameful. There's a lot about society that we need to address, and feminism means equity, means we build a space where we all get space and room and safety and light.