great post and a very important topic.

When men are saying things women have been saying, their voices - our voices - should not be elevated above those of the women who said them first, or who are saying them at the same time.

i think this is crucial. it's akin to mansplaining on the deepest most crude level. here we have men getting precedence of voice in the very issue they're supposedly allying in. i've seen it in these instances. like in Men Explain Things to Me: Rebecca Solnit ... where weinstein starts mansplaining her about her own field (as one example).

when it comes to toxic men who hide under the guise of feminism.. sorry but these people are worse than the really backwards "non woke" people. do not be a wolf in sheep's clothing. where these men gaslight and abuse under a guise of feminism, the community needs to support and get real about it. step up for the women who have been abused and refuse to sweep it under the rug. community accountability is really the only hope here.

https://norasamaran.com/ is a go to on this!

especially this article: https://norasamaran.com/2016/02/11/dating-tips-for-the-feminist-man/

per you being a mod in a feminist group; i think as long as you uphold women's voices and hold space for them, there isn't anything wrong with it persay. it's when one would use that space to champion their own self above the voices they're purporting to support that it could get toxic.